WE CAN’T CHANGE THE WORLD, BUT WE CAN CERTAINLY CHANGE OUR PERCEPTION AND RESPONSES

Keep smiling and one day Life will get tired of upsetting you

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.” ~Mary Engelbreit

Many times in the past, I’ve complained that things weren’t fair.but now I stop complaining & start working. As I feel it can’t give me anything except pain, it is wastage of time. It’s a important lesson in my life.
Now I’m learning to understand my strong emotional response so that I can challenge the feelings and thoughts that dis empowered me. While we all learned about fairness in childhood, it’s very difficult to tackle the unfair situations in next life but it’s not impossible to tackle, everyone can but it need the will power how to tackle the situations & how to overcome that.

Life isn’t always fair. Whether its self-preservation, basic human decency, or a combination of both, we want to change that. Those people who don’t let unfairness make them bitter aren’t somehow better than others.

Studies have shown that the reward centers of our brains activate when we recognize fairness—even when it pertains to someone else. When we witness unfairness, it triggers our amygdale, the primitive part of the brain that controls fear and anger. This means that when we feel like we’ve been treated unfairly, we go into “fight or flight” mode, with its resulting sense of anxiety.

Psychologists suggest that when we fight for fairness for others, it’s actually self-interest in disguise; meaning we’ve recognized it provides us with some type of advantage to be fair.
Sometimes some negativity thoughts & problematic life break us inside. But a wise person takes it as a challenging way. Choice is yours how you tackle the situation & how you take it.

Now I gonna say how you can overcome these –

I am a great experienced person; my life is full of problematic so I taste all kinds of situations & I know how to tackle all situations.
if I’ll start saying about my problematic life I don’t know where to start – but I can say after standard 10^th my actual problematic life started , I failed to get medical then I entered into engineering , then I struggled a lot for getting good marks in engineering career & tried to love it. However my life is a kind of never ending problematic life, it’s kind of continuous process, I helped many people but when I want no one helped me ,yeah some people helped me when i needed , i can't be so much disobliged person.. I being isolated, I become like solitary person. People call me introvert as I talk less but no one try to know the truth. Everyone blame me but I don’t know why people don’t try to know the truth & story behind every person. I never blame anyone as I believe everyone has a story & I always try to know that. Before I scold anyone or blame anyone I try to know about their past & their life.

My life is full of struggle & pain. I got pain for my dream , as I already failed to fulfill my one dream & this time I don’t want to lose any chance to fulfill my dream , My dream is great mean to me. That’s the reason I can sacrifice my all pleasure, entertainment, friendship life, as my dream is my first priority. But it’s very difficult to fulfill within lots of obstacles. Sometimes I confuse which problem I solve first which to next, sometimes my problems gives me more headache than people words or behavior. There was a time I got upset by behavior & words now nothing demoralize me except my own life problems – my problems related to my dream , I have no any second problem except my dream (I feel blessed as I have got a beautiful family , most understanding & caring parents. even I have everything except the ways to fulfill my dream ). I know no one can understand your dream until & unless you show them what you wanna do, so I always feel it’s better to live silent. I AM A LOVER OF PEACE. Silent is a best way to avoid all kinds of problems but sometimes some situations tell us to open our mouth. But open your mouth doesn’t mean to scold anyone, do the wise step which can solve your problem without disturbing others. So now I am a great experienced person, I experienced every kind of problems & I know how to tackle it. So I wanna thanks my lord for making me wise, strong & knowledgeable.

Recently I am saying “my problems are like in a queue”  
Now I am final year student even I have tension for my higher studies , my course (university mark), even for my project (which I am doing alone – BIONANO ROBOT, which is a major project & doing alone under the guidance of my college professor) . Along that I tackle many rough situations alone as I am staying in hostel & I love to tackle my own problems alone. After that my health condition is not so good (recently), recently I my spectacle broken down, in my laptop the hard drive & battery gonna damage & I can’t do anything without my laptop as I Am my career is COMPUTER BASED.I don’t know how to tackle all these at a time. It’s give me big headache , today I decided let my all problems in one part , my education & dream in another part. I don’t wanna relate all. My dream is great means to me, so I gonna separate them all. I can’t allow my problems to interfere with my dream, problems are like bubble. But once you lose your time to fulfill your dream you can’t get that further.

According to my papa’s word “I can’t stay a day without internet”, in fun – it’s true. but now my laptop going to damage so it’s better to less use it for some days until I buy new . Even it’s better to less use ,until I reach at my destination I’ll use it as it is . I have to wait till that day, but internet helps you a lot for your every work but before that you have to reach at your destination. Words can’t give you success but works can. So this is my final decision.

In my life I have taken much decision according to time & situations. My time decides my priority of work.

Now I gonna say how to stay away from negative thoughts & concentrate on your work.

Do any of you feel overwhelmed by negativity?

Sometimes when bad things happen to good people and innocent people & they suffer for no reason. They break more from inside.
At that time these negative thoughts tend to enter in their mind.
“Why is life so unfair?”
“What did I do to deserve this?”
“What if bad things happen to me?”
Sounds familiar?

That, to me, is the biggest problem when it comes to dealing with negativity properly.
Thinking of the negative state of the world can be a real downer.
It’s also rather demoralizing to know that it’s a huge uphill battle to try to make a positive difference.

The best solution is to simply get out there and start helping others.
That’s not to say to immediately start a movement and try to change the world overnight. Just go do something nice for someone. Help a friend or family member out. Do a random good deed. Do some volunteer work? When you help others, it automatically makes everything better for yourself. And the world becomes a better place. Too often people over analyze how or when they should do something positive. Take action now, for your own sake and for those around you. That little action alone will go a long way.

With more than seven billion people on this planet, there is bound to be conflict. But we all have a choice in how we deal with negativity.
We can’t change mistreatment that happened in the past. We can address mistreatment that’s happening now. We can’t change someone else’s decision or behavior if they aren’t willing to change. We can change how we respond to them (and choose to help educate and positively influence them). We can’t change that tragedies have occurred, in our own lives or in places across the globe. We can support causes that seek to prevent future tragedies, or even spearhead our own. And we can’t guarantee specific outcomes for our actions, but we can increase our odds of making a difference by being clear-headed, patient, and consistent. Sometimes there will be unfair things that we simply need to accept, and it might feel instinctive to fight that. We’re only human, and we will sometimes give in to our emotional responses. What’s important is that we try to move beyond them so we don’t let the things we can’t control take control of us.

We can’t change the world, but we can certainly change our perception and responses. You may not be able to control the world or the way things unfold, but remember, you always have a choice. You may deal with people and things that seem bad, but you can choose how you perceive and react to them. It’ll take some work, but it’ll be worth it.