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“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe,
deserve your love and affection.” ~Buddha
There is nothing in the world
that beats the feeling of falling in love and being in love.
I have spent many
Valentine's Days single , May be throughout my school life and college life I
spend – Almost 22 years life I spend my valentine day single . Yes ! I spend my
1-2 valentine day that also in internet, strange but true, I don’t know but
LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS really suits me.
I always put a ton of pressure
on Valentine's Day because it seemed that all around me people were in
beautiful relationships, being showered with love. Everyone except for me , I
sit lonely and my friends mock me saying like – MONK , even while Scrolling through my Facebook news feed, on which every
other post proclaims an engagement or a wedding, it's easy to wonder why
everyone's suddenly getting married or in love. Except, me then I realize oh
today is valentine day . I smile and feel proud on myself “I am
different and I love my life”. My problem is not with relationships , My
problem is with I am really scared of getting hurt and I find out that most of
the guys comes in my life is like time pass kind , once I judge someone closely
I never dare to close with them more in love sense , In friendship I love to do
with all. I am also astonished , why I never get anyone else , Is it because of my dream
or something else which push me back or am I hurt internally which I can’t forget
easily , It can anything but really truth is I am scared of getting hurt . I
don’t worry for myself , I’ll marry myself until unless I get someone who
really deserve me , After 9-10 months my MBA will complete , Hope ! after that I’ll
start searching for me or if i am incapable of search for myself then i'll take help of my relatives or parents and their choice will be final as i can't stay whole life single but as per my profession and dream , Hope ! I’ll get
such kind of person but till that day I have to spend my valentine day with me
only even THIS YEAR-2016- ALSO J
Many people fantasize of
meeting the perfect match , yet more and more of us think of relationships as a
life partnership that gives us sustenance and allow us to share our selves and
our love in a deep and soulful way. We long for a strong and happy unions and
marriages, and home life that offers security and is sturdy enough to be the
foundation for all else we do in the world.
Most of the time, with so many
people we are expressing so much desire for love but in the end we all end up
with only one, why are so many still searching? Why do many people fear love
may never come? The reasons are many, and as complex as each individual who desires true love.
Looking for love externally,
and even finding someone who seems to adore you, can be a fleeting thing if you
do not have a strong foundation of self-esteem. It is honoring of oneself that
opens the door for another to truly do the same. Sometimes emotionally demanding
tasks of getting ready for love, ritual helps to give us a head start. That's
why marriage ceremonies are so important.
Here is why I wanna marry myself until unless I get
someone and why it is important you marry yourself, too:
Accountability.
No matter how many people are in our lives and how amazing our partners are, we are the sole owners of our happiness even I learnt one lesson from my life – Don’t give your key of happiness to others. To me, marrying myself is my way of taking responsibility for my wellbeing and my happiness , it’s better than blaming others and playing the victim.
Practice.
Long-term relationships, let alone marriages, are, in big part, work that needs to be done on both sides.Committing to my vows every day, forgiving myself, being compassionate and supporting the pursuit of my dreams has prepared me for an amazing relationship to come.
No matter how many people are in our lives and how amazing our partners are, we are the sole owners of our happiness even I learnt one lesson from my life – Don’t give your key of happiness to others. To me, marrying myself is my way of taking responsibility for my wellbeing and my happiness , it’s better than blaming others and playing the victim.
Practice.
Long-term relationships, let alone marriages, are, in big part, work that needs to be done on both sides.Committing to my vows every day, forgiving myself, being compassionate and supporting the pursuit of my dreams has prepared me for an amazing relationship to come.
Commitment.
Why do people marry if they can just be together? Public commitment makes it less likely for you to back down. In this case, telling the world I am committed to loving myself is my way to strengthen this promise and serve as an inspiration to others in my community.
Why do people marry if they can just be together? Public commitment makes it less likely for you to back down. In this case, telling the world I am committed to loving myself is my way to strengthen this promise and serve as an inspiration to others in my community.
Evaluate where your self-worth (MOST IMP. POINT IN EVERY RELATIONSHIPS)
We human beings tend to base our sense of self-worth on the things that are most important to us. It’s common to hear people proudly say, “I’m a financial advisor,” or, “I’m the manager of my division at work,” But how often do you hear, “I am the world’s luckiest husband / Wife /Boy Friend / Girl friend” very rare until unless they have some work with you or, “I have the best family in the whole wide world”?
We human beings tend to base our sense of self-worth on the things that are most important to us. It’s common to hear people proudly say, “I’m a financial advisor,” or, “I’m the manager of my division at work,” But how often do you hear, “I am the world’s luckiest husband / Wife /Boy Friend / Girl friend” very rare until unless they have some work with you or, “I have the best family in the whole wide world”?
All about being proud of your career accomplishments and of
other things in your life, but I truly believe that the happiest couples draw a
lot of their self-worth from their relationship with each other. So start
giving priority to yourself , who loves you and give you priority love them , it’s the best way to keep your relationship
stronger because now the world is competitive world and we can’t tolerate who
mistreat us , i specially can't . I am an Aquarius and this zodiac people are generally giver and famous for their humanity actions , so i love to help others and i have competitions with myself only , so if i help someone that'll add in my GOOD KARMA in God's judiciary system so i always help others and in return i don't expect anything but when it comes to relationships i expect a lot specially helping me in my DREAM and which is the main reason behind my Sorrow because i also ready to help and sacrifice many for that person . So for me it's the most vital point but I'll think about this when i'll start choosing for myself but not now.
I’ll be MONK
until I get someone whom I deserve or who deserve for my love I know it’ll be
in 2017 because now I am in MBA and I don’t wanna disturb myself even I never
find anyone else till now who truly love me, For time pass you’ll get many
people but for LOVE , ha , rare and I don’t wanna be someone’s time pass toy. But in the same time I
believe in TRUE LOVE , it need some time to blossom but once it blossom no one
can break it so here I have written some of views for all lovers or who wants
to start their love journey from this valentine day.
Do write down what you
appreciate
Write a list of
qualities that you appreciate about your loved one, and put those words in a
card, poem, or a short video of you reading the list. This can be
characteristics they possess or things they have done. Include both specific
and general examples.
Do share your favorite
memories aloud
Write a list of six
or so of your favorite, most stellar shared memories and retell the events and
why they are significant for you.
Do fall in love again
Allow yourself to fall in love
anew. Conjure up feelings of a time you were full of love for your Valentine,
and keep your focus there in your heart. Give up the mental score-keeping of
your differences and interrupt all your complaints. Recall the way you felt
when you first met.
Do not hold on to the
past
Valentine's Day is
a great day to let go of any grudges you're holding and to accept your loved
one, flaws and all. To do this, repeat over and over to yourself, "My
partner is the way he is, not the way I want him to be." Or, "My
partner did what she did." We both did the best we could at the
time." Stating these truths to yourself with conviction will help you be
able to let go of the past and genuinely say and mean, "I love you.”
Do not be afraid to
step out of the box and do something different
Take the evening
off from your normal routine and do something that steps out of your usual
routine, like dancing in your backyard or reading a poem aloud in front of the
fireplace. Maybe plan an outing to a favorite place, maybe a hike or a stroll
to a new destination.
Do not be afraid to
talk and/or listen
Set up a
comfortable place to talk, and ask questions about life, dreams, wishes, and
feelings. Just listen while he or she talks. Don't interrupt. Remind him or her
that you won't share this information with anyone.
Do not forget to
embrace the spirit of the day
Refrain from making
negative jokes about Valentine's Day or your partner's opinion about the day.
Regardless of how you feel, only say positive things genuinely. It’s just one
day.
