CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOR CHANGE YOUR WORLD

CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOR CHANGE YOUR WORLD

“Change your thoughts and you change your world.” ~ Norman Vincent Peale

We can’t change the world immediately, so before thinking about to change the world first we have to change ourselves. Because if we can able to change ourselves then we can able to change our world.

 OUR “THOUGHT + ACTION = PEACEFUL WORLD”

Now I am going to tell how we can change ourselves & how it influences our world or surroundings.

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.” – Aristotle

We can focus on our “PERSONALITY + BEHAVIOR + THINKING” to change our world. These three may seems equal but everything has different impact in our life.

What is Personality Change?

We have all wished we could be someone else, as their personality touches our heart. Sometimes we even follow their path & try to be like them, you may have wished you could be more optimistic. Changing your core personality traits, like extroversion, is difficult. But what you can change is your behavior. It's never too late to do what you want to do, and with a little sweat and a little luck, you can break out of old patterns and be who you want to be.

How we can change our thought?

The nature of our thoughts determines the quality of our life-whether it is sad, happy and contented. Happy, optimistic, positive thoughts, good emotions and feelings generate a successful life. You are not too old to change your thought, yeah it’s difficult to change to a person who does n’t want to change, if you want to change from your core of your world then it’s not too difficult to change no matter how old you are. There is an old saying “the mind- thoughts- can move the mountains”. Pessimistic, sad and gloomy thoughts, on the other hand, create failure & painful life even I am a great example. (I know the meaning of failure & how it feels so every time through my article I am motivating the mind of people because what I faced & how much pain I have got because of my failure I don’t want other also get the same so through my articles I am writing whatever I feel . faced & learnt in my life. at least I can help someone through my life lessons.)

Our actions are the practical manifestations of our thoughts. It is clear that, we can bring about a change in the way we think. A good thing about our brain is that it willingly adopts any good changes that will bring out our inner strength. when we happy & in positive state of mind  we do something which make everyone surprise but there is nothing to surprise ,our thinking patterns can change our life.

What is Behavioral change ?

It’s a term that describes the way we act or conduct ourselves. Behaviors are the actions that we make, relating to ourselves or the actions we make around others. How behaviors tell about us, which kind of person we are? So our good behavior towards others can make a positive change in our world or our surroundings how we act affects the way other people may think about us as people. Sometimes People act even when they’re not thinking of acting may be because of anger or any other reason like disturb mind. But it indirectly affects our life also, so we should conscious about our behavior towards others. People react. They carefully weigh different situations, while others impulsively choose to move forward. No matter how someone responds to a situation, that reaction is the essence of behavior in our world. Bad behaviors can be corrected, however.

HOW OUR THOUGHT / BEHAVIOR / PERSONALITY AFFECTS OUR SOCIETY & HOW WE CAN CHANGE OUR WORLD.

“Men’s natures are alike; it is their habits that separate them.” – Confucius.

Here I wanna say we all are equal but one thing is different that is our way of thinking & behavior towards others. So we have to change ourselves so that we can able to change our world. Change should be in positive way.

“We first make our habits, and then our habits make us.” - John Dryden

Change yourself

“You must be the change you want to see in the world.”

“As human beings, our greatness lays not so much in being able to remake the world – that is the myth of the atomic age – as in being able to remake ourselves.”-Gandhi ji

If you change yourself you will change your world. Sometimes I have seen some people take everything positively even they face lots of problem, they love everyone .It not because the world is so good & your surroundings, it’s because you are now viewing your environment through your good thoughts and emotions & also because the change within can allow you to take action in ways you would n’t have. So first try to love everything & change yourself in positive direction then find out the odds in others. Because sometimes we are too busy in others life we forget about us & our life.

You are in control

“Nobody can hurt me without my permission.”- Gandhi ji

What you feel and how you react to something is always up to you. There may be a “normal” or a common way to react to different things. But that’s mostly just all it is.

You can choose your own thoughts, reactions and emotions to pretty much everything. And as you realize that no-one outside of yourself can actually control how you feel you can start to incorporate this thinking into your daily life and develop it as a thought habit. A habit that you can grow stronger and stronger over time. So control your mind & heart. My own experience – daily at least one negative comment I get either through social media or from my surroundings. But I always ignore all because I know myself so why should I listen others. Even I know what I have done in my past life I don’t wanna repeat further. In my past life I was very fool I take seriously each & every words of others. So I was always in tense about me & always try to find out my bad personality. But now I am wise, I know the reasons behind the negative & positive comments. So I ignore all, even I know people will continue their mouth till your death, but for them I can’t stop dreaming & working. No, not at all. Now I don’t depend on others, yeah, I love those who give positive comments. I love them. But now I don’t allow others to hurt me or demoralize me. because in my past life I lost my precious time in pain due to such kind of behavior. now I don’t allow other’s behavior to hurt me. as I know no one is yours in this world even no one is permanent so be selective , choose positive people & make friendship with them. it will help you a lot. Ignore negative people, their judgment & comments is not the final result of your life. they may feel jealous so they are telling. always keep one thing in your mind when a person feel inferior at that time that person start commenting others . so be happy for the comments at least be sure that person is feeling you are better than that person.

Develop positive thinking

I put this first because I think it’s the keystone habit that will help you form the other important habits. Positive thinking by itself won’t lead to success, but it motivates you to do the other things required & makes you a successful person.

Stop telling negative things about you like – I can do this, I have no so much capability. I have no luck. Why my life is so struggling. Blew…

I know we all face problems in our life but don’t allow your problems to destroy you or kill your dream. So be positive. I am saying about me when I did n’t get medical I feel “I can’t get anything in my life .I am a great looser & many more” , which was my first mistake . As this thought make me weak from inside, slowly I feel like looser & I have no that much brain power / strength like others. I am a dull student & I started avoiding others. I feel inferior complex about me whenever I see others. But I did n’t know this thought will be like my enemy one day. As for this which thing I can do, I say No! I can’t do this is very hard. Even some kind of hashing comments demoralize me more & more. Which leads a painful & failure life? But one point came I felt NO! I have to be strong like before & have to fight for my dream, I have to wise & know the world , Otherwise I will die or can’t do anything in my life. At that time I actually felt peace with in. I saw which thing I had told I can’t do, I did that. I felt I can do everything, so why I did n’t try before as I fear to do this or I had negative thinking about me. So I found one thing IF YOU THINK POSITIVE THEN NO ONE & NOTHING CAN DEMORALIZE YOU. YEAH, EVERYONE FACE FAILURE BUT IF YOU TAKE YOUR EVERY SITUATION POSITIVELY THEN ONE DAY YOU WILL GET SUCCESS. BE SURE OF THAT.

Kindness

Yes, kindness is a habit. And it can be cultivated. Focus on it every day for a month and you’ll see profound changes in your life. You’ll feel better about yourself as a person. You’ll see people react to you differently and treat you better, over the long run. It’s karma.

How do you develop the kindness habit? First, make it a goal to do something kind for someone each day. At the beginning of the day, figure out what that kind act will be and then do it during the day. Second, each time you interact with someone, try to be kind, be friendly, and be compassionate. Third, try to go beyond small kindnesses to larger acts of compassion, volunteering to help those in need and taking the initiative to relieve suffering.

Forgive and let it go.

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” Gandhi ji

Fighting can’t give you anything neither peace nor pleasure, so why we fight? Yeah, we are human sometimes we can’t control our anger so we show it through scolding someone or misbehaving or through fighting. But do you think, it can solve our problem. No ! it has the power to give you pain & down your image. So I always avoid Fighting. That’s why; I always try to clear the doubts about me. I don’t like rumors or false messages about me. I don’t think through fight you can convince someone. You can do this in peaceful way. Yes, some people also exist who love to fight, so in that situation do one thing, BE SILENT & LEAVE THAT PLACE. WHEN THEY GET THEIR SENSE TALK WITH THEM OR SAY THEM WHOLE STORY THROUGH ANY LETTER, WHAT I BELIEVE & USUALLY DO. WHEN I CAN’T SAY SOMETHING I TELL EVERYTHING THROUGH WRITING, WRITING IS MY BEST WEAPON IN MY LIFE.

You realize that forgiving and letting go of the past will do you and the people in your world a great service. And spending your time in some negative memory won’t help you after you have learned the lessons you can learn from that experience. You’ll probably just cause yourself more suffering and paralyze yourself from taking action in this present moment.

Without action you are n’t going anywhere

Without taking action very little will be done. However, taking action can be hard and difficult. every time is not suitable to take any action , sometimes we have to wait for perfect time & situation to take any action, but without taking any action it’s very difficult to change our world , . So, before taking any action try to make yourself that much strong & knowledgeable then only you can get success, yes courage is needed but most important is knowledge. So read different books which can give you idea how to start up your journey & from where? If you read different books of different great people their life can motivate you & give you idea how to start up your work. So doesn’t worry if you are confuse, if you have books then they are your best friend, they can help you a lot in many ways. WHAT I HAVE LEARNT. because I have no much friends who can suggest me how to improve myself & how to start up my work , yes many good people around me who constantly encourage me but I get idea from different books & different great people’s life journey. So BOOK IS MY FIRST BEST FRIEND.

Everyone is one

In this world if you will see you will find everyone as one, we all have same body structure & same biological appearance ,etc .so if we wanna get peace in our world then  it’s very important to keep in mind that everyone is just a human being no matter who they are.

And I think it’s important to remember that we are all human and prone to make mistakes. Holding people to unreasonable standards will only create more unnecessary conflicts in your world and negativity within you. So accept everyone with their difference, we all are different from each other through religion, geographical region, color, customs, personality. But we are including under HUMAN, that’s the big thing. We should respect everyone & accept their difference.

See the good in people and help them

I love this “Service to mankind is service to God “

I believe , everyone is not good  everyone is not bad , there is something good & something bad in everyone , may it differ the percentage wise like in some people if good quality is 70% & bad quality is 30% & some people bad quality is 70% & good quality is 30% . So it defines people but I believe if you find there is something good with in everyone. No one is born criminal or bad in nature but their society & environment make them like that. So try to find out the reasons behind why people are behaving like this & try to rectify them. I know it’s very difficult task but not impossible. YOU CAN RECTIFY SOMEONE THROUGH PSYCHOLOGY STUDY. EVERYONE HAS SOME WEAK POINT, TRY TO FIND OUT, HELP THEM THROUGH THIS. HOW? IT’S A BIG QUESTION. EVERY PROBLEM HAS DIFFERENT SOLUTION. ONE ARTICLE CAN’T SAY THIS ANSWER. SORRY, I CAN’T ELABORATE ALL THROUGH THIS. BUT WE CAN DO.

So there is pretty much always something good in people. And things that may not be so good. But you can choose what things to focus on. And if you want improvement then focusing on the good in people is a useful choice. It also makes life easier for you as your world and relationships become more pleasant and positive and when you see the good in people it becomes easier to motivate yourself to be of service to them. By being of service to other people, by giving them value you not only make their lives better. Over time you tend to get what you give. And the people you help may feel more inclined to help other people in this way, together, create a positive change that grows and becomes stronger.

 “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” ~ Melody Beattie

Appreciate and enjoy what you already have

“If you realize that you have enough, you are truly rich.” ~ Lao Tzu

This is not to suggest that you should not aspire for a still better life. Enjoy whatever amount of success you have achieved instead of feeling sad about what you have not been able to achieve. There is nothing wrong with always fixing higher benchmarks or goals, but failure to reach them should not spoil your enjoyment of what you already have.

Lastly I wanna say it’s not easy to change the world for this we have to change our selves & it’s not easy to change ourselves to change ourselves we have to constantly practice these qualities. We have to make a routine how we can change ourselves so that we can change our world. now world really need good people , as now where ever you will go you will find violence , discrimination , so we need some change within us then only we can able to make our world beautiful .

We have to follow these 3 in daily routine

Patience – It takes time to understand why you’re engaging in bad behaviors. The key to figuring that out merely involves examining why and where they originated. It may take weeks or months to understand, but it’s the best way to learn.

Practice – It takes practice to change your behaviors. No one gets ‘it’ right the first time, after all. Changing your bad behaviors is as easy as changing your habits, a process that’s pretty much ongoing as you live your life.

Control – It takes a lot of effort to control your bad behaviors. Any type of bad habit is going to be difficult to stop, but it’s possible to rid completely if you take time to control yourself. Always take the time to control yourself—and you’ll soon understand why you react in certain ways.

Keep these four core beliefs in the forefront of everything you do:

• Be true to yourself: always present the best treatment
• Know your real value: don’t do discount dentistry
• Make the emotional investment: invest in yourself and your staff through continuing education
• Change your thinking: make it positive and change your world

“There are two things to aim at in life:  first, to get what you want; and after that, to enjoy it.  Only the wisest of mankind achieve the second.” ~ Logan Pearsall Smith

WHY I ALWAYS WRITE MOTIVATIONAL WRITINGS –?

YES, I LOVE IT. BECAUSE I KNOW its VALUE.

I am telling these things to everyone, as I have learnt many things in my life. I have tested the failure & I know how it feels. How society behave when you fail to fulfill anything. I have learnt & faced many more things may you can’t imagine. for everything I am blaming myself  & my God , as I was BORN FOOL . Even I wanna give a Big thanks to my lord as he make me wise through struggle , my life taught me so much lessons which indirectly helped me to become a matured person. Within 22 years I learnt many more things. Mainly last 7 years I learnt many things. Class 10^th to till now 4^th year of my engineering life I learnt many more lessons. Which can help me in my future life? I believe I’ll not do the same mistake again which I had done in my past life. So I know how it feels, how society behaves, how people comment you when you become a failure person but it hurts more when your parents lose hope on you (for getting success) , not getting medical is my biggest crime as it hurt them badly , now nothing can make them smile, Still trying my best. I believe "EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR GOOD REASON" . So I always write motivational writings as what I have faced I don’t want other also face the same situation, so I always write whatever I have faced & the reasons *LIFE LESSONS & MY LIFE STORY*. As I can’t see pain of others as I know how it is? How much it hurts when your dream becomes dream & when society & everyone call you as dump & failure person. So I always try to motivate the mind of people & teach the people whatever I know. I know I am not so knowledgeable or so genius but I know how much I know that is enough to progress & become a successful person. I know my faults so I am shamelessly written my own failures & reasons because I can’t see other also face the same situation. If I can change someone’s life little bit through my learning then that’s a big thing for me. I always want that. Even I know if anyone follows this it can help you develop your personality in a good manner. Yeah, I know everything but sometimes I forget due to some situations. But I always try to keep all these things. 

Most painful situation arise when everyone doubts on your talent & abilities , no matter whatever you say everyone doubts on you & nobody comes to help you as you never succeed in your life. main demerits of failure personality.