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Everyone takes someone as their idol, whom they can follow
or whose personality attracts them most. For me, I take my father as he deserves.
If you will ask why! Then I'd say there are so many personality traits, which
make him that much worth.
The life lessons what I learned from my father –
1)
Sacrificing his life
for his whole family
2)
Know how to build
better relationship with everyone
3)
Know how to take responsibility
by own
Story
Begins :
Background of my family:
My father is the only son of his parents and my grandfather
and my great grandfather were also the only sons, so I belong to
a nuclear family background. My father has 3 sisters, one elder and 2 are
younger. I love my village home, as there is a shiva temple in the backyard, a
pond adjacent to it and just 500 meters away high way is there. Most important is, it
is just 5-7 kilometers away from the bay of bangle. If Balasore will turn into like
goa or any visiting place, then that place will be turned into a summer
vacation place. But this is a daydream
for me for my place. In short, I can say I love my birthplace due to its
natural beauty.
My mother’s father is a mathematics lecturer and my mother
has 2 sisters and 3 brothers. My mother’s native place is Baripada which is in
Murbhanja district. Currently, the whole family is living in the Bhadrak district.
My Father:
My father completed his Master’s degree from Utkal
University in the year 1988, and then he got married in the year June 27, 1989.
When he got married, at that time he was working in the entrepreneurship
development program, at Balasore. I born after 1 year of his marriage means in
the year 15th June 1991.
After I turned into 1 year, he lost his first job and became
jobless, by that time he had so many responsibilities like my grandmother was ill
and grandfather was already retired and his two sisters were unmarried. His
youngest sister was pursuing her college degree. My father is the only son so
my grandparents never ever wanted, my father should go outside and have a job as
he is everything for them. My grandparents love my father like their own soul;
in the sort, I can say for my grandparents my father is like their own life.
So many responsibilities with jobless, therefore my father
applied for government jobs and after 3 months he selected on the railway. His life
changed afterward. He posted at Ranchi initially for his training. At first, he
didn’t like to be with that job as he is a Ph.D. holder with highly qualified. So
neither he could concentrate on his job nor he had any other options to go ahead
with, He never ever wanted to be a lecture as my grandfather (Mothers father) was also a mathematics lecture so my father knew the salary of a lecture by that time, whereas he didn’t have time for preparation and go for another fascinating job. By that
time he already married and he had a baby. Me, my mother and my brother initially stayed at
Ranchi then Chakradharpur for 5 years.
After 2 years of joining in Indian railway, he joined his
hand with his father for my aunt’s marriage. After my aunt’s marriage my grandmother
died at the age of 54 years due to prolonged illness.
My father’s youngest sister was still there for marriage. Our whole family shifted to Rourkela except my grandfather as he wanted to take
care of his property and his all memories were there.
We continued our education at Rourkela, then after 1 year we
again returned back to our village as my grandfather was facing lots of trouble
and my aunt also was at the marriage age. When I was 9 years old my youngest aunt
got married. My grandfather shifted to Puri and decided to spend the rest of life
as a saint. We came back to Rourkela and continue our education again. That’s why
me and my brother were facing lots of trouble until our 10 years for a better education.
Educational investment:
My father always wanted to give us a better education. So my
father and mother divided their core competency areas for teaching, My father
used to teach me Math, science, and geography, my mother was handling
Literature, History. Me and my brother went to drawing classes. This is how
my father tried his best to give time for our education. Private jobs have holidays,
not in railways. When I was in the 10th standard my grandfather faced an accident
during his tirtha yatra, he was paralyzed one side. So my father took him to Rourkela
and we all stayed together. My grandfather was a land lord and agriculture overseer,
when he turned into a paralyzed patient, he became very depressed. This thing hurt him every
time he was very active in his own way. Even though my father tried his best
to give him the best treatment still he was not in the mood to stay at Rourkela,
one side my 10th board exam and another side my grandfather’s
illness. so my father finally decided to provide me, home tutors, as that was high time for board exams, so for 2 days in a week my father used to pay 2000
for math and for different subjects it very.
My father even my school had a great hope on me that, I’ll
make my school proud, as I got scholarships twice and I got many intra school
prizes in different competitions. Even my father was not happy with my percentage
even though I got a good percentage still it was not as per my talent. So my
father decided to send me Bhubaneswar for higher education. I studied at KIIT,
where he spend 1 lakh 50 thousand per year, in 2 years it was 3 lakh.
But I couldn’t perform well as that was for the first time I
was staying at the hostel and I had some health issues like asthma and common cold
problem since my birth. So everyday morning bath and not taking care of my own
health caused so much damage. I am more responsible and studious than my younger
brother still I couldn’t perform well even my father spend 3 lakh in 2 years. So
my father decided not to send my brother to a boarding college like me – KIIT Science
College. My father gave the best tutors even education to my brother. My brother is talented but not studious, that
was the difference.
My father always interested to give me a better education, so
he allowed me for medical coaching at Aakash then again when I didn’t get, he
didn’t lose his hope and he gave another chance to study higher by putting me
in IIIT for my better future instead of putting me for any simple graduation.
Then after my graduation, he didn’t force me to do a job,
instead of that, he gave me another chance for pursuing MBA. He tried his best
for my brother as well, the only difference between me and my brother was I was a very responsible person from the beginning and my brother grew up with lots of love
and affection. So he chooses his career as per his interest and I choose as
per my parent’s interest.
My grandfather died in the year 2012. My father’s only backbone,
even though he couldn’t help us much financially or physically still he was his
backbone since 2006, when he suffered from paralysis.
Till I got married, I always asked for
money every month for some reason, I was very dependable. But my father made
me a capable person through education and skills. He played a big role in my
entire life.
I got married at Maharashtra, as a daughter he not only
spend money on my education but also for my marriage as well. I got married in
a premium hotel that is Swosti. With the help of my uncle, my marriage finished
at Bhubaneswar in a well and respected manner.
The few things which I like most and I always wish to be
like my father –
1)
He is a self-made
person, therefor he is now in Chief CC position in railway.
2)
Me and my brother
are MBA holder with proper education
3)
He never depends on
anyone neither his father nor anyone for money or property or for anything (as his father was a retired person. From my mother’s
side- We rarely get a chance to visit our grandparents’ house (mother’s side)
as my mother had so many responsibilities in her own home (my father’s side). (There for my mother
never wanted I should marry in a house who has single son, otherwise, my life will
be full of responsibilities.) Still with
limited money he could do so many things in his entire life. For this, he sacrificed
a lot, he values the money and he had no bad habits to spend his money. I
learnt how to save and value money from my father and how to work dedicatedly.
5)
He is a great
husband, my mother had 2 major operations during her 30s still he never ever depressed
and still he is spending on her
6)
He always put his
respect as his first priority
7)
If our relatives
love our family, just because of my mother and father as they never expect
anything from anyone. We just visit our relative’s house, spend some time and
return without any expectations.
These are the major personality traits of my father, for which
I always bow my head in front of him. I don’t know how could he manage all
relationships and all responsibilities.
Most often I had a fight with my parents but I know they are
always best. But nowadays being simple is the most difficult thing in this
current world so I am the ODD MAN OUT
in my family. I love the way, I am as I see the world in a different way. Still, I
always go with my family values.
1)
I love a family with
values and morals than show-offs.
2)
I give first
priority to education and talent than any modern culture.
3)
I believe this
modern world staying with your own culture and value is difficult but not
impossible.
4)
I am a blend of
traditional and modern culture.
Whereas my parents give values to
traditions and without any second thoughts they go for something as per society.
I am different – I believe with facts, figures with future consequences as per
that I take decisions. My parents taught me how to be more authentic in deeds
and thought process. My parents were never being a part of my struggle and dreams,
I dream high and I fight for that with my family values. This is what I am and
this is how I am different from my family and parents.