MISCONCEPTIONS ACTION AND REACTIONS (PART 1- HR)

What was your biggest misconception about yourself and how did you realize it?

We all have a perception of ourselves in our own eyes even some misconception too. Many a times, it so happens that something, person, thought, event or anything could change the way we think about ourselves. What is the one thing that you ever thought about yourself, was later realized to be untrue and how did you come to this realization?

That’s what I am going to elaborate today, as it need in present competitive world where misconception, misperceptions and rumours has better place than TRUTH.

I think in HR round HR also ask this question to the candidate –"What is the biggest misconception that people have about you?"    
 
It was a great question - insightful and thought provoking.  I believe every misconception has some kind of reason behind. Take your own present life –

I am going to take my example to justify this -

Misconceptions - 

People have many misconception about me

1)  The new and recent one which I am facing last 4 years means after 2011-12 to TILL DATE. I am BAD COMMUNICATOR.

Reason – Yes! I am due to my scenario , I can’t fight with all and sometimes I feel it’s better to silent and when I try to speak , people knowingly shut my mouth as I WAS VERY STRAIGHTFORWARD person and I always speak TRUTH only , which may cause bad impression to many . I can’t be double face that’s why I always have my own circle where I feel comfortable , who love and understand me well not use me and my name. That’s why now also I am silent but sometime being silent create many fake ECHOS which also has great impact in your life. So it’s you HOW YOU CAN HANDLE THAT.

My explanation – From my childhood days to till my 19 years I was talking with everyone else and sudden no one can lose their voice , there must be some reason and like that I also have and now forwards I have to careful about that how to handle that .

2)  I am very strong or can say I don’t believe in LOVE.

Reason – I know people well from their behaviour from longer period. If someone continuously disrespect you, not in mood to help you even you ask for even not at all interested to communicate you. Is that a real reason to love to SPOIL YOURSELF by your own hand or can say SPOIL YOUR SELF RESPECT AND GET CHEATED BADLY AND IN THE END , YOU HANG YOURSELF DUE TO LOVE A WRONG PERSON.

My explanation – Love is another name of God, it may sound very philosophical but it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. I love someone who really deserve for my family as a long term relation may be till my last breath and I don’t want perfection but I need truthfulness and pure form towards me. Even you cry for such kind of person that also worthy because he’ll never ever make you cry to spoil you but to surprise you with lots of love.

3)  I can’t be a good employee as I always do things in my way like always research oriented.

Reason – This is totally fake as I already have my internship experiences even other corporate experiences even have better connection with many corporate people too, I am flexible but yes! Where I am good at if I’ll be put in that I’ll excel in that filed and which can be a bonus for the company too.

4)  My mind-set or my maturity level vs MY AGE.

Reason – People always confuse between my ages with my maturity level but I have no answer for that as people think maturity comes with age but I think it comes with experience. Ha, no matter what other says – My age will not before or on my parents’ marriage year, I am a human baby of course.

Explanation – I think it’s silly still I don’t care. It’s a great news for me that people take me I am more knowledgeable as well as matured than others, I take it as a GOD’S GIFT. I am happy with this recognition and in the same time I believe nobody can change the truth also.

So these are the misconception about me and I am seriously saying , this has already killed me inside and even I am trying to overcome I don’t know why it’s difficult to get ride off . That’s why I am very choosy in my selection of friends. I have very few friends but I know WHEN I NEED THEM AT LEAST THEY’LL PICK UP MY CALL or MESSAGE ME or TALK WITH ME FOR A WHILE.

I don’t know how can I get rid of misconception but I learnt one thing this MISCONCEPTION AND RUMORS SPOIL YOUR LIFE BOTH CAREER AND DREAM. so one option is KEEP SOME PEOPLE AWAY FROM YOUR LIFE AND SOME ISSUES and MISINFORMATION NEED TO BE INFORMED AND SOLVED.

So handle it wisely otherwise it gonna kill you mentally too. 

Besides my life misconception there are many misconception which already fit in our mind.

1)    A lot of people tend to share a common misconception when it comes to success.

Hard work and slow and steady but now a days it change into SMART work and run as speed as you can otherwise someone will grasp your opportunity

2)    The best things in life are always expensive. Love is not expensive but now a days due to greedy mind-set everything looks expensive, people nowadays LOVE SOMEONE LIKE TO WIN A LOTTERY, HA! PROFIT ENDS, CUT THE RELATIONSHIP. This is not how LOVE actually meant for.

3)    Pretty people have an easy life. They don't. Even good looking people suffer more than you. They go through heartbreaks, failure and depression too. Nobody knows the depth of scar hidden beneath those pleasant looking doll faces. So stop judging them.

4)    There is no right and wrong way or good and bad choices in life.  Don't let others determine what might suit you best. They have the absolute right to guide and mentor you but the decisions should you solely yours alone. Be bold enough to write your own destiny. 

SUGGESTION -  

Misconception , misperception and Rumours have great power to ruin your life that’s why many people also try to take the advantage of that so never let others to do this with you. You are born to live happily and successful life , don’t let others to down you and your image. IF SOMEONE DO , FOLLOW "TIT FOR TAT" RULE , SOMETIMES BEING LITTLE BAD IS ALSO GOOD FOR YOU AND YOUR FUTURE TOO . Don’t be so PURE in this impure world otherwise people again take it as in negative sense .