PURE FORM OF LOVE - MY ANALYSIS

 

Pure love means to I want nothing except your love .

Love, this may contain 4 alphabet but it has great importance in our life and have huge meaning behind this tiny word.  

But how we’ll got to know that “OUR LOVE IS TRUE or NOT”?

How can we define that, how can we measure that?

I believe it varies person to person, but when love is pure you can see it through eyes. Without saying a single word you can understand the meaning behind. You can understand the pain behind the smile of a person, the silent behind the full of questions, simple OK or FINE behind I am not at all OK or FINE. Who not only live with you but also can’t live without too or think about live without you. Who always plan to make you happy, when you cry the tears falls from your eyes in the form of happiness not sad as those who love us they actually don’t ever want a single tear in our face, they may be RUDE, ARROGANT OR STRICT for whole world but when it comes to their Love, everything melts, that’s what is called as LOVE (I believe such kind of love)

Do you ever feel loved, yes! Mostly everyone even I also felt but when it comes to pure form of love and simple love, how we can distinguish. No doubt what I describe in previous that is my faith or can say my believe even you can correlated too but how can you know whether someone love you or not, It can be simple attraction too. so how can we judge some one that he/she love us as we meet many people in our life and love rarely starts with crush as a crush end up as a crush only but when we love someone we think about long run whereas when it comes to crush , it’s for short run. But this also I believe that – LOVE CAN COME FROM ANY FORM AND SHOWING LOVE VARIES PERSON TO PERSON but from the end result you’ll got to know whether the love is real love or just a crush.

From my perspective on LOVE in terms of RELATIONSHIPS-

True or pure form love cannot be given to someone or can be shared , it is the quality of exchange turns into a need for help, sympathy, comfort, approval, confirmation or sense of security etc. , it’s not like one partner always be the giver and other partner will be the always taker .

Pure love does not expect anything in return except love, it does not demand, it is natural, gracious and freeing, it means to keep the highest attitude, equal respect and vision for every soul. Most important is it can’t be quantified, none of the partners love as Love itself is unquantifiable and sometimes the time we give and care we give to our partner may not be equal but some time little care also manageable when we put ourselves in their shoes (especially married couples).

I believe - God’s love is the purest, constant and selfless.

"Love Conquers All", is said just to make the point in a more dramatic way.

Here are the 14 core differences between true love and toxic love

Love: Development of self-first priority.

Toxic love: Obsession with relationship

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Love: Room to grow, expand; desire for others to grow.

Toxic love: Security, comfort in sameness; intensity of need seen as proof of love – May really be fear, insecurity, loneliness.

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Love: Separate interests; other friends; maintain other meaningful relationships.

Toxic love: Total involvement; limited social life; neglect old friends, interests

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Love: Encouragement of each other’s expanding; secure in own worth.

Toxic love: Preoccupation with other’s behaviour; fear of other changing.

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Love: Appropriate Trust (trusting partner to behave according to fundamental nature.)

Toxic love: Jealousy; possessiveness; fear of competition; protects “supply.”

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Love: Compromise, negotiation or taking turns at leading. Problem solving together.

Toxic love: Power plays for control; blaming; passive or aggressive manipulation.

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Love: Embracing of each other’s individuality.

Toxic love: Trying to change other to own image.

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Love: Relationship deals with all aspects of reality.

Toxic love: Relationship is based on delusion and avoidance of the unpleasant.

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Love: Self-care by both partners; emotional state not dependent on other’s mood.

Toxic love: Expectation that one partner will fix and rescue the other.

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Love: Loving detachment (healthy concern about partner, while letting go.)

Toxic love: Fusion (being obsessed with each other’s problems and feelings.)

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Love: Ability to enjoy solitude by being alone.

Toxic love: Unable to endure separation; clinging.

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Love: Cycle of comfort and contentment.

Toxic love: Cycle of pain and despair.

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Love: Conversations based upon intent to Understand, Help, or convey affection.

Toxic love: Conversations based upon intent to blame, defend, or manipulate.

Love lesson learnt from 'Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind'

I love this movie as it is the psychological thriller, which we all face in our life but in different way, some are in extreme stage and some are in low stage and it specially affects to more loyal people.

Story outline –

This is a story about a shy man, Joel Bearish, who undergoes a memory erasing procedure after finding out that his ex-girlfriend, Clementine Kruczynski, had him erased completely from her mind. Throughout his journey through his subconscious mind, Joel realizes that the good memories shared with Clem are not worth forgetting. Besides the fact that this movie is one of Jim Carrey's best roles, here are a few life lessons I learned...

1.     Nothing is more painful than strong memory power

We all suffer from some sort of memories which kill us deep inside. Impulsive I know, but I think we can all relate to the impulsivity that is brought on by pain and sadness. I’m sure we all might have a few memories of exes that we would love to erase from our heads, but with relationships come good memories, too which very difficult to enrage sometimes we don’t want to let go of them.

2.     Relationships can thrive if you are willing to grow.

Relationships can’t thrive if you hold a grudge over tiny arguments that happened forever ago. You have to power how to maintain your self-esteem as well as the relationship too. So it’s you, if you want to grow you can even you have big misunderstanding, everthing can be solved as per the time. It depends on you, whether you try to keep or leave.

3.     It’s OK to try again.

A majority of us have a difficult time getting back with an ex for obvious reasons: lack of communication, stopped caring, got bored. The list could go on and on. However, most of the time we are resistant to try again because we believe that the same thing that tore the relationship apart in the first place will repeat itself. Although that may be true in some cases, getting back into the same relationship with that thought process will make it inevitable for failure. Joel and Clementine are faced with willing to be together again even when they find out their past relationship failed. With some slight hesitation, they attempt a fresh, new relationship. Nothing in life is going to be perfect, so why not make a second chance worthwhile?

4.     The good AND the bad are essential for growth.

Every character in the movie wishes they could reverse the erasing process. Regardless of the pain they’re feeling when the relationship’s ended, these characters are aware that these memories are an essential part of who they are and what they’ve become. Without these memories, they are not the same people they would have been. Let’s face it, we can all learn something from even the most painful relationships.

Love lessons from “Me Before you”

It’s a beautiful movie with heartrending story and honest characters teach many valuable life lessons that are often times overlooked in the busy lives we lead.

When I watch it in beginning I feel it’s a selfish title but as per I watch and in the end my perception about the movie change into a different mode. I learnt what you do you mean by True love is?

I love this line most -“You only get one life… it’s your duty to live it as fully as possible.” – Will Trainor

1. be thankful for what you have and appreciate the little things.

You don’t always realize just how lucky you have it until a life-changing event happens, which is exactly what happened to Will. Everyone has bad days, but sometimes we forget that there are people who have it much worse than us.

2. Quality outweighs quantity.

Although we sometimes think that the longer we live the better, the quality of our lives is far more important.  By quality, I mean being blessed with happiness, good health and love. We shouldn’t count the things we do in a day; rather we should do the things that count. How we live our lives counts for more than the number of years we live.

3. be compassionate toward others.

Lou is the most selfless, kind and caring character in Me before You. She puts others before herself, including Will and her family. She works hard to support her family and opens will’s heart to love again. Lou shows us that helping those in need and just smiling at someone can go a long way. Compassion is contagious and it is something we should strive for every day.

4. Love heals pain; embrace it.

In order to experience love, we have to put ourselves out there and be vulnerable. This is not the easiest thing to do, but when we open our hearts to one another just as Lou and Will did, it can change everything. Despite the difficult time that Will was going through, it was Lou’s love that inspired and motivated him to get up every morning. The greatest gift we can give to someone is loving them through the good and the bad and being there for them when they need us the most.

5. Live life to the fullest.

“YOLO” holds true to this statement. You only live once, so you should cherish every moment and take advantage of every opportunity you receive in life. For in the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take.

Life lessons from Barfi!

1. Trust is the most important thing in every stage of our life

Relationships in life and business are built on the foundation of trust. Trust is comforting and makes relationships stronger.  We find both Barfi and Jhilmil give a lot of importance to trust in their lives. Take for example, Barfi’s lamppost test. He would check how much people would trust him and also, if they will leave him in a crisis situation. The same holds true for Jhilmil. Outside home, where she would only her trust her Nanny, she would only feel comfortable at Muskaan. It took a lot of time for Barfi to gain her trust. In business, it’s important to win the trust of your employees, partners and investors. Without the trust and support of various stakeholders, it’s difficult to make great thing possible. And, when you earn the trust, make sure you don’t lose it.

2. Don’t live a life with regrets

Once you take a decision, live with it. There’s not much to gain from living with regrets. Living with regrets is a constant reminder of some error in judgement or blunder, you have committed in life. Thinking about ‘what ifs’ often stop us from enjoying the little pleasures of life and other joys and opportunities, which are presented to us. Shruti’s mother may have lived a life, thinking about the lover she deserted and lived through a marriage without love.

Though Shruti moved one step forward, she also had to live with regrets about not being able to be together with Barfi. Similarly, in business, when a decision is made, you have to live with the consequences and make the most out of the present situation, rather than rue about lost opportunities in a path the Company didn’t or couldn’t take. It could be missed opportunities in launching a product category or entering new markets or simply wrong choice of a target group for your products.

3. Always wear a smile

A smile has magical powers and is often infectious. A smile makes you look good and feel good. Smiling in adversity even helps in making the situation seem less difficult and leads to reduction of stress. Barfi couldn’t talk, but he could smile. After the long chase sequence in the beginning, when the police (Saurabh Shukla and co.) manage to get hold of Barfi, and Shruti is visibly hassled, Barfi gives her a smile. Barfi continued to smile at everyone and in all circumstances, throughout the movie.

A smile can break barriers and make business possible, especially in a multi-cultural environment where language can prove to be a serious impediment. In businesses which involve a lot of interactions with the customer like retail or hospitality or service industry, a smile can often defuse a potential crisis and make that difficult sale happen.

 

My perception from all these 3 movies –

·        Love is unconditional

·        It doesn’t matters how you looks and how much money you have

·        Never give up your love matter whatever the situation comes

·        Love can be come as any form “Spotless mind – None of them want to give up on each other even after they have relationship break up, Me before you - It doesn’t matter whom you love and love always not about physical attraction sometimes love with someone unconditionally too, this story is same as BARFI but in Barfi movie – Both love each other unconditionally and accept each other as they are. These are actually pure form of love.

·        Always loyal people suffers a lot when it comes to love as they can’t love others or can say, they can’t cheat others.

·        All mental patients are in love are the LOYAL and GOOD lovers as they love truly and sometimes madly too (which is harmful also or can say too much possessive). they are good as well as bad as per personality but they are always loyal to one that’s why they can’t tolerate heart breaks and cheat easily or can say Highly sensitive people.

·        Showing love varies from person to person so never blame anyone for this.

·        IT'S ALL ABOUT ME – But I am loyal , faithful and sensitive too , when I feel ignored and cheated , I simply move out from my emotion easily as I am belongs to Aquarius sun sign , I am fully detached personality and in the same time I am so attached too when I get same kind of attachment and love in return . That’s why those who KNOW ME, THEY NEVER EVER LEAVE ME AS THEY KNOW ME BETTER. IT’S THEIR GAIN AS I BELIEVE IN LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP WITH FAITH. THAT’S WHY I FEEL “ I AM QUITE DIFFERENT PERSONALITY ALTOGETHER” . I DON’T LOVE , WHEN I DO IT’S DEEP UNTIL I KNOW IT’S TRUE AND I NEVER EVER DISTRACT MY MIND FROM FAKE SHOW UPS.