STOP TROLLING YOUR LIFE

I love this sentence –  Agar hum ye bhi sochene lag jaya ki , log kya sochte hain tho phir log kya soche nge? – If we’ll start thinking what people are thinking about us then what people’ll think ?

I learnt one lesson from my past – stop worrying about everything you see or hear , as you can’t change everything as well as everyone. So live your life fullest, how you imagine?

There was a time I worry in everything but after a point of my life I realize the fact that – I am just making my life hell in my own hand by trolling my life and other people just take advantage of it.

That’s why now a days I start changing myself as FOR THIS I LOST MANY OF MY PRECIOUS RELATIONSHIPS EVEN MY LOVED PEOPLE (whom i respect a lot even love a lot from my heart and mind , they are my GURU or MASTER ) due to illustration aura I created by myself then catalyzed by my haters , now I am not creating any issue whereas people join everything with me and makes it horrifying .

That’s why I promise to myself until unless I become in that position to call myself a CELEBRITY or Some important position – I’ll never ever take anything and anyone personally even the nonverbal gesture , I love everyone even I can show but no negative gesture will be considered until unless I do something really wrong . as sometimes illustration aura not only ruin your relationships but also your image too and some take it as best weapon to RUIN YOUR CAREER , whenever i look back i realized that if i lost many people due to my OWN FOOLISHNESS . In INDIA many places have many blind believes and faiths - which also has the negative impact on this illustration effects . Some people just make your simple life complicated through imposing their own stupidity .

So few steps you should take to stop trolling your own life –

• Stop giving your power away

Stop giving the power to hurt you to other people, this is the best way to allow yourself to get upset by what others might say. The more you allow someone to upset you, the more power you give to them. Stop thinking about others. But don’t stop judging, this may help you to rectify yourself in positive way.

• Limit your interactions with toxic people

Toxic people are quite skilled at personal attacks. You take what they say personally because there is no doubt that it was meant that way. These are the people in your life who drain you of emotional energy.

After I encountered many toxic people , who ruined my life totally finally I get enlightened as they drive your energy down and make you feel nervous, angry, devalued, or depressed. In extreme situations one solution may be to cut off contact completely. You should never lose your mental health for anyone.

• Be aware of mixed messages

This is the most harmful type of communication can be what is called the “double bind” message. You can identify the double bind message by the fact that the content of what the person is saying does not match up to the speaker’s body language, tone of voice, and other non-verbal modes of communication. This time you are totally confused – what they are saying and how should you react? So always be aware of mixed message, sometimes giving the perfect non direct answer is best way to deal with such kind of situation.

• Realize that some people say stupid things.

When most people talk, they aren’t thinking about you or anyone else. It does take some time, energy, and skill to formulate an intentional dig at someone. In other words, most people are not going to waste their time thinking of ways to intentionally hurt someone.

Likewise, most people aren’t thinking about you and your sensitivities. There are many people who say hurtful things because they don’t know how to express themselves and they are oblivious to their audience. This is no excuse for rude behaviour but at least you know in some instances it is not about you. What people say is always more about themselves than anyone else.

·        Question Your Beliefs.

Don’t misinterpret everything you see and hear, as everything has dual side. In turn, our interpretations are formed by our beliefs.

Like one excellent example -

If I say HI to someone, they have to say HELLO me back.

If they don’t return my greeting, they’re being disrespectful.

If they’re disrespectful, it’s because they think that I’m not worthy of respect.

If people think I’m not worthy of respect, then they think I’m worthless.

If people think I’m worthless, then maybe I am.

The situation may be something like this -

I say Hi to someone as it’s a polite gesture to do so, but not everyone has the same view.

If they don’t greet me back it’s not about me, but about them.

May be - they didn’t hear me properly OR they don’t know OR they’re having a bad day OR they simply think its best not to talk to people they don’t know.

Other best FUNNY DEATH example -

If you suffer from headache and stomach pain then you search about this in google and it shows you 1000s of possible results and it’ll totally conform you that YOU GONNA DIE TOMORROW. If someone wants a conformation latter of his/her death then he/she should GOOGLE about his/her any kind of unusual symptoms and suddenly get heart attack without having heart disease and finally for 1-2 days you’ll be in shock that I AM GOING TO DIE.

I am saying as I usually do in hostel when I can’t go outside for health check up. But when I go to doctor – I always get one answer nothing - everything is fine yes! She has problem with vitamins as I am true lover of fast foods and snakes than healthy food until unless it is tasty as my taste bud is very active. This is truly happens with me every time as one google makes me terrify and another my friends .

From last 2 years except during exam time (that’s normal for me) I neither fall ill in fever or anything except LOW BP (this time and that also last moment) due to vitamin deficit , that’s normal for me as I am very foody person . For this reason I never ever visit the Osteopathy room till now in our COLLEGE (Sri Sri University) also, whereas the doctors (students) are there for free check-up in our college. Whereas I never ever go, as you need a reason to go where as I never ever have any health issue except food related problems?  Yes! when I was child I had asthma then recently I faced sinus for few days due to color my hair ( in both the cases I faced problem due to my hair as I love shining little red or brown shaded hair But in natural process – I HATE CHEMICALS that’s why till now I never ever go for facial too except twice within 24+ or 25 years of life , this is the unusual and unbelievable true fact in 2017 era . I don’t know my future as in future I may need chemicals due to cope up with present world fashion – to make a plastic kind of face ;)  fully artificial glow which you can get in natural process too . I am kind of girl who believes in NATURALS , AYURVEDIC TREATMENTS and YOGA than medicines and chemicals) but in my body my diseases are like visitors , they come for short period but can’t stay for more days , for that reason I always feel grateful before my lord as i know he'll keep me alive UNTIL UNLESS I MAKE MY DREAM TRUE AND MAKE MY LIFE PURPOSEFUL . This is the real true fact about me , Yes ! I always have problem with cold and cough as I born with that :P

This is way sometimes we perceive some situations, whereas the situation may be something else. My example is perfect for this kind of situation. This kind of situations arise because we have different beliefs. If you want to stop taking things personally, the world become more lovable.

·        Recognize the “Spotlight Effect”.

A lot of the time we feel like – our each and every activity is judged by people. What we do, what we talk, how we work, how we dress up and how much water bottles we drink per day ;)

This is true happens, I feel awkward in this situation but sometimes we have to deal with, when people judge your every single steps.

When we feel that we’re been judged or criticized by someone else, we’re actually not. Since we’re each inside our own head, we’re acutely aware of our flaws, weaknesses, and insecurities.

·        Become More Confident.

Confidence acts as a buffer between you and the comments and actions of other people. The more confident you are, the thicker that buffer is. Look at the following:

If you have low confidence you’re likely to bristle at any negative comment people throw at you because there’s a part of you that’s afraid that what they’re saying is true.

If you have high confidence and someone says something negative about you, you know that what they’re saying isn’t true; that it’s a small flaw that isn’t going to hold you back in any way; or that it’s something that you have the ability to fix. Therefore, it’s much easier for you to simply shrug it off.

·        Don’t Drink the Poison.

Don’t take anything personally, until unless someone say something personally .Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds. Taking things personally makes you easy prey for these predators, the black magicians. They can hook you easily with one little opinion and feed you whatever poison they want, and because you take it personally, you eat it up.

Conclusion

We only have limited time and energy right to spend in purposeful manner? Why give your precious energy to people who make your life miserable? You can’t please everyone and you can’t be good for all , as personally I feel I never ever did any kind of mistake till now , I never hurt anyone and I never harm anyone too still some people dislike me , it’s their loss not mine as I love truly . Move on to focusing on the people who do matter most in your life.

I personally feel –

Through this process I love many people in my life – sometimes your haters take it as main weapon to attack on you, but in that time use your common sense. Judge what mistake you did and a wise person never ever say wrong things to you until unless you do something really wrong or bad. you are not the only person exist in this entire world WHOM EVERYONE HATE, if people hate you there should be any reason – it’s not about friends, they hate you for many reasons either you topped in exam or win any race or don’t be so socialize with them or you are not from their gang or you don’t love someone whom they decide etc. etc. many reasons will come whereas when it comes to a WISE and KNOWLEDGEABLE person why they’ll say something bad without any reason – use your common sense. They are already in spotlight, your mini useless spotlight they don’t seek, so why they’ll hate you unnecessarily. They have lots of things to do and they have lots of enemies too, you are not the source of attention or attraction. So use your brain when it comes to out of box – until unless it is relevant to you don’t ruin your relationship with those people as they are very precious to keep. likewise I still remember for my friends and some outsiders I lost many relationship and doubt on many people who truly love me and whom I respect a lot from core but now I realize my mistake and I wish ! I’ll not repeat the same mistake again. This time I’ll rise my voice against those illustration creators, as they are the main source of running your image as well as your valuable relationship or do something like reverse. Use them to ruin their own relationships so that they’ll realize – sometimes being complicated is only solution in this present world what I realize and TIT FOR TAT is best policy without harming anyone or ruining anyone’s life that should not be our motto.

Taking things personally takes a toll on your happiness and on your peace of mind. Live your best life by not taking things personally. Start by following the eight strategies above.

NOW IT'S TIME TO FIGHT FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIPS AND SAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS !!!