LOVE IS A NECESSITY NOT A LUXURY

Love is a special feeling, we all feel it but very few I can say lucky people can get the TRUE  or PURE FORM OF LOVE in life.

So how can someone describe love – it has many definitions, ha! I don’t want to repeat all the old quotations again. I just want to say how you can describe when someone is in love.

Well,

When we hear the word love an unknown smile comes on our face, our cheek says it all – when we blush and our mild dimple with shyness tells yes! I am in love.

It seems very dramatic but this is how we actually act when we truly love someone – blushing is necessary. we blush by seeing when we feel love for someone either that person can be our crush or love, whoever – hiding feeling is a terrific trial a person makes, unfortunately, our body language says it all and we feel lovely embracement .sometimes this cute, lovely embracement is also a lifetime memory which we treasure within a separate corner of our heart so that no one can reach there or can know the true feelings of one’s.

However, love is necessary.

When we take the word of love – 99% people say it’s a feeling between boys a girl, does it.

Yes but love has many forms like – parents with their children, brother –sister – cousins, husband-wife, friends, and for some people Love is their DREAM, PASSION.

In this article, I just want to tell about LOVE as a form of LIFE PARTNER OR FRIEND OR LOVE AS A HUMAN BEING or in different words NON BLOOD RELATIONSHIPS.

Here many questions may arise in your mind – why I don’t discuss parents with their children and brother, sister and cousins, these are blood relationships. so attracting these people quite easier but the bitter truth is we spend our maximum time or can say One Third (1/3 rd) of our life with non-blood relationships then blood relationships when you are a girl, same with boys too. So when we are a part of this society LOVE EVERYONE AND BEING LOVED is badly required.

True human beings have an innate quality of giving and feeling love. When a baby is born, parents forget about their hunger, sleep, as they are so much in love with their child. The sweet ecstasy of love enables the man or woman to accomplish tasks that would not have been possible without its love powers. The enigmatic emotion exceeds all boundaries and has great potential for changing lives of the people. Love helps us to treat each other with kindness and compassion

Why we all seek love –

1)    It Is A Path To Self-Discovery

     Sometimes we feel like we know ourselves much better than anyone else, but the truth is we know ourselves only 60-70%, rest 40% onwards we realize when someone put light on.When we are in love, we show our trueness before that person without any hesitation as we trust that person so Love can reveal a lot about ourselves that we may not have already known. Our preferences, tastes, thought processes and instinctive reactions when we are in love reveal a lot about our character to ourselves upon reflection, especially considering that we are in situations where we may never have been before.

2)    It Is an Excellent Source of Motivation

     When you’re in love, you always tend to strive for better and not just in a vain sense either. That is to say, it is not merely for the sake of your partner loves you more (though that certainly is a motivation) but also, to do better in life, to set new goals, and generally strive for the best. The upswing in positive thoughts is also noticeable and that itself makes a big difference.

Examples – when you love someone, for the sake of better life you work harder to give all the best thing to your loved one and never ever let them disappoint for anything. That is the initial stage of excellence when you love someone truly either you grow up and reach to the pillar of success or you fail (like during college and school time exams – immature mindset).

3)    love is a great reformer

      In the same vein, love is also a great reformer. Have a bad habit that annoys your loved one? Likely that if you are in love that is reciprocated, you will defeat the habit and be rid of it. Just remember not to be too hard on yourself, and that if you had one bad restaurant experience, you’re not going to be giving up on eating out, though of course, we realize the two are not the same. The point still stands.

4)    Stress Buster

      Love is a great stress buster, in the form love you get a true friend who helps you get out of your pain. Your loved one may not help you every time still sharing your sorrows and life problems heal your mental health a lot. sometimes we feel like why some people are so rude, the truth is when we don’t find someone to love and to share our pain, our pain make us strong and finally we become rude. So love is a badly necessary in our present stressful lifestyle.

5)    Good for health

      Love is good for health as well, either in form of sex or being loved.

*    In addressing lifestyle factors that influence health, it is important to consider food choices, exercise, rest, and environmental factors like fresh air and sunlight. Scientists are beginning to discover that there is one facet of life that ranks above all of these factors in determining wellness and longevity. This facet is the level of love and connectedness that we feel.

    It is becoming clear that wellness and longevity are strongly dependent on experiencing supportive relationships with family and friends and being involved in groups and activities that give us a sense of purpose and contribution.

Example, a recently completed study that looked at 7,000 Californians over 17 years found that those who lacked meaningful social connections had a 200 to 300 percent greater chance of dying prematurely than those who felt more socially connected. A study of nearly 1,400 people with heart disease found that those with a spouse or confidant died at approximately one-third the rate of those who had no one to confide in. Another recent survey of more than 21,000 older adults found that weekly church attendance was associated with 7 years of longer life expectancy for Caucasian Americans and 14 years for African-Americans. (Copied from another source)*

These are key factors – why love is important for our life.

Sometimes we feel very disappointed and start hating LOVE after cheated badly, truth is – LOVE NEVER CHEAT ANYONE, human cheat so hates that person not love.

Love is always pure – About my personal perspective -

I believe LOVE IS THE ONLY REASON WHY WE ARE ALIVE, it acts as a painkiller and miracle too. We all want to be loved still we always scared of being cheated, most probably we are cheated once. Emotional and sensitive people feel the breakups much deeper than the less emotional people. An emotional person always doesn’t mean to be a sweet spoken, well behaved and knows how to show love, emotional people do the opposite as they can’t understand how to showcase their love, fear of getting detached and lost – that’s why most of the emotional people either spend their maximum time being single until they get someone who truly loves them or they always look for love or can say hunger of love (both in positive and negative way) , emotional people no matter whether they are introvert or extrovert but when they are around those whom they love – they truly know how to show love and truly romantic person. Nonemotional or less emotional people are great in flirt that’s why they can change their love frequently and can patch up with anyone, for them attachment and detachment are a fraction of the time, they can be very good with words and manners but you can’t trust them for a longer period, trust issue comes here.

One thing I marked – presently people have much insecurity feelings about their LOVED ONE, but one thing I know when it comes to TRUE LOVE, you should not worry for anything, that person is yours only. That’s why I love this quote “If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they were never ever yours."  And I find out 90% of them never come back to me even in future – it means they were or are never ever meant to stay in my life. IN LOVE – EGO PLAYS A VITAL ROLE, IT’S CALLED SELF LOVE. IF YOU DON’T LOVE YOURSELF YOU CAN’T LOVE ANYONE.

My way of love is – love one and make him/her your only priority of life and life partner. Don’t spoil the name of LOVE otherwise call it as CRUSH, Don’t identify them as your LOVER.That’s why I am happily still single BY CHOICE and I proud of that I never ever cheat anyone FROM MY SIDE , for that I never ever feel dumped one as cheating someone never makes you wiser or SMART – If God has keep someone for me, that person will come and I know no matter who is he I’ll accept him gladly as I trust my lord more than me <3

Once you get to this point your life is a whole lot better. I don’t want to impress anyone, I just want to be a good person and do the right things. ~ Beverly Nelson