BEING JEALOUS IS GOOD

Whenever jealousy is talked about its reference to everything not only in relationships but also in work place also. Usually between heterosexuals it found more. I choose this topic to write, because I feel now days it makes our life just like hell. Yes it’s true, we are all jealous. It is impossible not to be. As long as we are human, we see what others have and wish we could have it too. But that is n’t always bad. There are three types of jealousy: wicked jealousy, dangerous jealousy and good jealousy. If you want your friend’s dress and you don’t want her to have it that is wicked. Why should it bother you that your friend owns something nice? Even if you want the same thing, you should be happy for her that she has it. To want it, and that she not have it, is plain mean. So, let’s say you don’t mind that she has her dress, just that you want one too. Is that okay? Well, it’s not wicked, but be careful. When you focus too much on what others have, it leads to being unhappy with what you have,always remember here you are insulting yourself . Instead of being satisfied with all the good grade  hence ever jealousy is talked about its reference to everything not only in grade . This has no end. Eventually, you’ll have bad feelings toward your friends when you can’t have it all. So this type of jealousy is not wicked, but it is dangerous. But then there is a jealousy that is good. That is being jealous of someone else’s good deeds or fine character. When you see a friend who is kind, generous, forgiving, disciplined or trustworthy, and you say, “I wish I were like that,” this is good jealousy. In fact, this is why we have jealousy in our nature. It can make us want to be a better person. 

But, for now, let’s think of jealousy in the narrower context of "love" and romance and marriage/partner.

Jealousy in love

I feel when you feel jealous in case of love means you are in love, but you can’t give guaranty its true. As sometimes people love to say themselves as engaged & some people take love as main sources for time pass. So they feel jealous in other sense. but if someone jealous in love matter means, if that person loves you. You can feel it. He/she can’t see you with other & he /she can’t say anything bad about you. He /She always respect to your feelings. Yeah, they love to tease but they can’t see the tear in your eye. This is call true love. In true love jealous is common, it’s not because they have no believe in you, it’s because they feel insecure. They fear to lose you, that’s the main reason they hate other person who nice to you. So it’s a common thing, so never take it as serious. You should happy if someone feels jealous for you, because be sure that that person loves you. It’s not too difficult to mark. so never cut any relationship in jealous matter. 

Gender bias jealous

Generally boys jealous on girls. It’s true that opposite sex people attract easily & their friendship is stronger than homosexual. But a boy can’t see a girl’s success. Very few boys are there in this world they want to see their partner’s success. Mostly 90% boys don’t want their partner should be more educate than them.  As they feel inferior, it’s not their problem. It’s their characteristic. You may have heard in  “behind in every successful man there is a woman present”, have you ever heard “behind in every successful woman there is a man present”…no One  I don’t know there may be few present, but their no is very negligible. Yes , a woman always give her thanks to her whole family including her husband, but in a very rare case a male play a lead role to make a woman success. That’s the main reason why I don’t wanna marry. As I have a dream & I have  burning desire to fulfill it …I don’t wanna stop my journey in anywhere. I am not saying I wanna see my success only, I wanna success united. But in this world it’s too difficult get a person whose mentality match with you. I am not joking my friends its true. Boys help you a lot, but truth is they can’t see your success. They help

you for success but they can’t see when you win over them / when you one step ahead of them. They are very pure & usually simple for girl’s matters. But when it comes to success they became mute. 

Jealous in work place

It’s common, as now days we all wanna see ourselves in higher position, that’s why we fight to reach at top most position. It has not only positive as well as negative effect. When you in are in a company you work harder to get promotion. But sometimes in election time, one person murders another or injured another to get the seat. I am not saying it happens always but sometimes it happens. 

Jealous between friends 

It’s common, most of the times I have seen even if you do nothing harm to other, and people still comments you. It’s a general thing, that’s the main reason behind of every sorrow in student life. Sometimes your friends make your life just like hell. It happens, so jealous is good it helps for your improvement, but it bad when you make someone’s life just like hell. & it became the reason of loneliness sometimes in student career. So be jealous but don’t make someone’s life just like hell. Comment them but there should be some truth. Sometimes this jealous become the main reason behind the fall of grade & increase the mental stress. 

Jealous between homosexual

It also a common, when a girl jealous another girl there must be three reason behind

1) Either she may be beautiful & rich 

2) Talented & cunning 

3) Boy friend matter

These three matters are sure, I don’t know about boys, seriously telling. But as I am a girl & I love to study mind, finally I reach at this conclusion. & my conclusion is always true.

The general form of jealous 

Jealousy is not the result of love. It’s a very reverse of understanding, of sympathy, and of insured feeling. If jealousy is neither a sign of love nor a sign of personal failure, what is it? Just as a fever is a sign of a virus, jealousy is the outward manifestation of a troubled relationship and a lack of self-respect. An individual...or even a couple..., who is jealous of their mate, should try to understand that jealousy is a signal to attend to that relationship and to oneself. Although this essay is not the place to go into depth about it, the romantic relationship.

Jealousy is a complicated emotion. It is similar to envy in many ways, and often is connected with it. Jealousy is experienced when a person sees a threat to what they have, or even what they want to have.  Jealousy can also be a useful emotion if utilized properly. Being jealous of another person’s wealth can give a person renewed drive to succeed in their own business ventures. Overcoming or even just acknowledging jealousy can give someone personal insight and growth. Healthy competition is not wrong, nor is jealousy if it gives a signal for a person to change something in their life. But on the side, however, jealousy can cause control issues, relationship violence, and feelings of insecurity, stress, and self-doubt. Through jealousy, people can lose confidence, trust, and self-esteem, which shows why it is necessary to analyze and overcome these strong emotions.

The best way to handle jealousy is to acknowledge it for what it is. Everyone feels jealousy at some point in their life, but it is how it is handled that gives insight into a person’s character. Asking the question, “Why am I jealous?” can lead to personal growth. If jealousy is being based on false beliefs then those thoughts need to be changed. If jealousy is harming a relationship, they best thing to do is simply apologize and then talk those feelings out. Explaining what you feel is n’t shameful, but rather a sign of strength. Jealousy, like wrath or pride, is a passionate emotion that everyone will have to face at one point in their life. Whether they acknowledge the emotion for what it is fear and anger will determine whether they learn and grow from the emotion, or suffer because of it.

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