NO PAIN NO GAIN

 “Pain is not a sign of weakness, but bearing it alone is a choice to grow weak.” ~Lori Deschene

I, like many of you I’m guessing, am a wanderer. A student of the soul. At times it can be a bewildering path. Most days I give thanks for the adventure. I love to do adventurous work as I want to learn from it .  I TOO LOVE TO GAIN MORE PAIN , HOW MUCH I CAN . SO THAT I CAN FEEL OTHERS PAIN, IT MAY MAKES YOU LAUGH BUT IT’S TRUE. I LOVE TO GET PAIN & FACE THE DANGER SITUATION SO THAT I CAN CREATE IDEA WHEN I ACTUALLY NEED. IT HELPS ME TO UNDERSTAND DIFFERENT PEOPLE & THEIR SITUATIONS . THAT’S THE REASON I LOVE TO DO ADVENTUROUS / PAINFUL WORK. WHERE I CAN LEARN SOMETHING NEW.

I am a wanderer, I am not aimless: I have a path as deep and true as any other. I simply have no map to guide me ,my great teachers are : people, places, books, ideas, synchronicity.

I have learned to trust my inner senses. When I am on my path, my life feels good and right; off it. For a long while I wondered what this path actually was. What was it that defined some actions as “right” for my soul direction, and others “wrong. It’s as though there is a channel through life that is “right” for each of us to take. When we are on it everything makes sense, we find flow better, we feel right in ourselves, we have a sense of something larger than our own small ambitions guiding us.

Our path, I have learned, takes us through the experiences, thoughts, and meetings that will heal every aspect ..

Therefore, each healing path must be unique, as each of our wounding is unique. And yet they each share many similarities, because in the end we are all humans and our stories cross over. we all have different story , if I always share my story so that someone can learn from it. The fate of us all lies in all our hands.

If you see a group of migrating birds, a shoal of fish, or a herd of wildebeest, there is a constant communication going on between them. They move as one, navigating canyons and predators.

They listen for the calls of others, and they listen to the instinct within. Both guide and steer them. Both have equal weight. But the overriding aim is to find the path and stay on it together, to find the safe way, the yielding way together—to get through together.

One ,I was feeling frustrated at myself and the seemingly disparate roles that I could not quite, I could not let go my dream because I can’t say others about my dream. The internal guidance system that leads my work as a writer, mentor, editor, and artist; My instinct to heal and to help others heal are equally strong driving forces that determine my whole life.

Then I zoomed out and saw some human need our help to heal their wounds , for this  we have to live us all together, all moving in the same direction. 

Life is Like the race ,the aim of which is not who wins or runs longest or fastest, but that everyone finishes together.

I speak or paint or write or sing with myself , because I am adding my vibration, which is the most basic thing I can give. I know the meaning of suffering so that I  don’t let other free to suffer.

So I ask you, every time do you feel the instinct rise, like a something big breaching in the center of your soul, with the urge to reach out and share words of love, gratitude, kindness, forgiveness, appreciation, hope, and healing, do it.

Every time you feel the desire to smile, but you may think it makes no difference ,but I think ,It matters. More than you could ever know. it’s really the only thing that does. I love to smile & help others how much I can & it gives me pleasure.

I LOVE THIS QUOTE -  “If you light a lamp for someone else it will also brighten your path.” ~Buddha

Why are you here on this earth? What is your purpose? What are you supposed to be doing with your life? These deep questions burn in all of us. Our souls’ desire is to lead fulfilling lives that have meaning.

My life’s journey has always been linked to helping other people; I just never saw it as serving them. As I have grown to know myself, I have discovered that I have this huge heart that wants the best for myself and for others. I now live to serve, and this brings me great fulfillment.

It’s n’t always easy for me to help everyone. I spend a great deal of my life questioning why I am here and what my life is all about. I had been through so much pain and had suffered at the hands of others. I can’t understand it all until I took a stand.

 Enough is enough. I needed to be different.

Little did I know that being different meant discovering myself and not simply changing my circumstances.

I am always a helpful person, but it’s about seeking validation for what I did, what the difference I can make in others’ lives .I don’t like to show my all works – as my parents has taught me “if you help someone then don’t tell it before everyone. if you are good then one day your goodness will be sprinkle before everyone”. so  I started learning about who I am and why I am behaving the way I do. i often be so angry with myself for doing things for other people that I really didn’t want to do.

I am v.short temper  that I don’t say no when I really want to. sometimes I realize that I could say no, and that I had been saying no to the wrong person. I needed to start saying yes to me, and that meant no to others.

I also want to be sure that I am n’t being mean and hurtful to others by saying no to certain requests, and so I started asking them. I realized quickly that true friends are the ones who tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear.

I wanted more of that in my life, and I knew if I were open and honest with others in this same way, I would help them discover something great about themselves.

The focus was on serving them and not seeking validation for myself.

The more I gave to myself, the more I was able to give to others, and the more I then received.

When we give, we always receive. may be what I deserve I always get it late but I surely achieve that .

I discovered how beautiful I am , I always focus on my inner beauty than external beauty. I always try to  give curiosity and compassion instead of frustration. I love to listen & respect others feelings . I always appreciate people for who they were, not the behaviors they display.

I start helping people gain insights into their own lives and the power they had to create and change them.

They started finding fulfillment and meaning for themselves, and this impacted their relationships. Serving others can create this same joy and meaning for you.

One way I serve people is by creating awareness about the difference between pain and suffering and helping them let go of what they need to release. Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional.

I have a choice now. I spent hours thinking what I could have done differently. I did not see myself as good enough, and so I thought it had to be my fault.

I am now in a place where I realize that suffering is optional, and so I serve others by sharing this. Living in each moment and being present to the beauty that shows up is something we all have the power to do. We just have to choose it.

We come into this world with infinite potential and then become conditioned to live to society’s expectations. This is the way it is, and yet we have the potential to change it. We all have special talents that make this world a richer place. Serve people by showing them how beautiful life can be when  they wanna quit it . This may be in writing, painting, singing, or any area of life.

I believe -You can achieve almost anything you want if you believe in yourself and you put your heart and mind to it. This level of self-belief allows you to know that you will be okay, no matter what happens. Serving people is easy when we know who we are and what we are about.

I believe our true purpose in life is to give our lives away to others, and that we receive happiness, fulfillment, and meaning in return.

LASTLY I WANNA SAY –

I CHOOSE A PATH , MAY PROBLEMS COME IN MY WAY I’LL NOT BREAK, THIS IS A PROMISE TO MYSELF. MY PROBLEMS ARE NOT BIGGER THAN MY DREAM. MY DREAM IS GREAT MEAN TO ME. I CAN’T HELP ALL BUT I CAN HELP SOME PEOPLE. I LOVE TO HELP THOSE WHO ARE IN PROBLEM , I DON’T CARE ANYTHINGS . WHEN I HELP SOMEONE HEARTILY. I LOVE TO HELP & FOR THIS SOMETIMES I HAVE TO PAY ALSO. BUT I ALWAYS BELIEVE IN HUMANITY. I BELIEVE I AM DOING MY WORK & I AM IN RIGHT WAY SO WHY SHOULD I FEAR OTHERS. I AM RIGHT PATH & WHAT I AM DOING THAT ALSO RIGHT. FROM THE BEGINNING OF MY LIFE I NEVER HARM OTHERS KNOWINGLY / I NEVER TRY TO HURT OTHERS / I NEVER QUARREL WITH OTHERS UNLESS & UNTIL I HURT BADLY. I NEVER BLAME OTHERS IF THERE IS NO TRUTH BEHIND. BUT SOMETIMES I FEEL EVERYTHING HAS A SATURATION POINT WHEN MY TOLERATION LIMIT END I RISE MY VOICE , I NEVER RISE MY VOICE FOR WRONG REASONS. IF ANYONE WANNA KNOW ABOUT ME THEN ASK ANY ONE WHO REALLY LOVE ME – EITHER MY FAMILY MEMBER / ANY OUTSIDER HOW I AM . TILL NOW I NEVER TRY TO HURT OTHERS. BUT I ALWAYS GET HURT AS I AM PURELY DIFFERENT FROM OTHERS. MY THOUGHTS , MY VIEWS & MY WAY OF PERCEPTION EVERYTHING DIFFERENT. WHAT I BELIEVE ALSO DIFFERENT. MY THOUGHT MAY BE OLD TYPE BUT IT NEVER HARM OTHERS. SO I BELIEVE ONE DAY I’LL SURELY GET GOLDEN RESULT AS I NEVER HARM OTHERS & I AM ALWAYS IN RIGHT PATH, I HAVE FAITH ON MY GOD . HE IS NOT SO BLIND , HE WILL GIVE ME MY RESULT. HE WANNA GIVE ME PAIN SO THAT I CAN REALIZE OTHERS PAIN . HE PUT ME IN PROBLEM SO THAT I CAN FIND OUT THE WAYS HOW TO SOLVE IT ALONE. I KNOW HE KNOWINGLY DO THIS. BECAUSE MY LIFE IS SOME KIND OF DIFFERENT , IT REALLY PAINFUL. BUT I REALLY LOVE IT. BECAUSE I LEARN A LOT OF THINGS FROM IT. I FEEL A KIND OF JOY FROM HERE.

I BELIEVE – IF THERE IS NO PAIN THEN THERE IS NO GAIN.