Forget the Past and Move
On?
Everyone experienced happiness and unhappiness in
his or her life. I am sure we all have, had some unpleasant memories too,
perhaps some which are of real painful ones? Well, forget the past and move on
and let time heal your pain, a lot would advise you. If I’ll ask, I am sure you
can still name me a pretty lot of those unpleasant memories of yours?
Well, we humans are by nature affectionate with
feelings and emotions and to be feeling down and unhappy at times is
inevitable. But then, this is the gift from our god to grow more. Take your
past experience as a lesson means in positive way and move on, the presence of
unpleasant memories has got to just be part and parcel of your life. You see,
it is only when you actually went through unhappiness, will you be able to then
understand and truly appreciate the gift of happiness. Until you forget the past,
you can’t live in present moment and can’t accept the reality.
You have to learn to let go of the unpleasant past.
But to get it clear, by asking you to let go is not asking you to try and
forget the past. As mentioned, it is not going to be easy for you to just
forget all those past unpleasantness. Yes, you may claim that you are able to
forget some though. But here, you have to understand that those are just the
insignificant events that have got not at all any harsh impact on you and which
is why you are able to forget them very easily. In short, you have understood
their insignificance and let go of them. And hence to be saying, for those that
that still haunt you, you have yet to understand them enough; you are still
unwilling to accept the fact that they actually happened.
Now, everything in life happen for a reason and the
reason for going through these unhappiness is actually to help you to better
understand yourself, to allow you to grow wiser and to move on and progress in
life.
If you have had that courage to stand up again and
again despite all those hurtful falls when you were a baby, I am sure you can
once again stand up on your feet to walk on and move on? Don't let your
unpleasant past be an obstacle to you, let it be instead a driving force for
you to move on and progress in life. Let go of the unpleasant past now,
happiness is what you should deserve.
How to
overcome the Past
Accept that the past is the past
Whatever happened, happened and there is absolutely nothing
you can do to change it. Accepting the fact that there is nothing you can do
about something is not always easy because it makes you feel powerless. However,
realizing and accepting the fact that things that happened in the past are not
your responsibility anymore, sometimes we do mistake without our mistake and
sometimes we do unknowingly.
It’s completely okay to let things go, and this also
includes things you feel guilty about, so stop beating yourself up about past
events that you cannot change and concentrate on the present instead. The more
you concentrating your present the more it beautiful become. Accept the past
and move on, but don’t try to hide it, the more you try to hide the more it
expose before others in rumor form. That’s why I open to all and I feel I should
say the truth no matter how hard it is and how bitter it is.
Stop Basing Everything on Your Experience
No matter how experienced and knowledgeable you may be in
whatever situation, all situations are different, even if only slightly. Sure,
you can learn from the past, but it is highly unlikely that anything is going
to happen in the exact same way twice.
Let’s say you ate a bad pizza– are you going to sit there
and think ‘That pizza hut was so disgusting, I hate that pizza, why did it have
to be so disgusting? I bet every single pizza I’m ever going to eat in the
future is going to be just as disgusting if not even more. Seriously though,
I’m going to start avoiding all pizza like the plague Or maybe if I’m really
careful about which pizza end up on my plate in the future I might be able to
only get the good ones.’?
If you do that each time life serves you a pizza, you’re
probably going to end up staring at it with your fork in hand, wondering if
it’s going to taste bad because the last one you ate did and if you really want
to go through the same thing again.
Through
this example I am trying to say, we can’t judge
or comment on all mankind based on some. world is consists of some bad and some
good , give chance and open your heart again and look good people still exists
and good things will happens once in your life , wait and do your job
perfectly. This case more appropriate for LOVE MATTERS, especially those who cheated once
they feel all girls or boys are same type, this is obvious thinking specially
those who love from heart.
When you base your actions completely on your experience,
you are limiting yourself and probably missing out on a bunch of good stuff.
Engage
with your fears and alter your habits.
Sometimes we
develop habits that keep us from confronting and moving beyond unresolved
experiences. They can keep us from incorporating their effects into our
decisions in the present. Part of incorporating these effects is breaking these
habits to confront your feelings.
Face your fear and move on, once you win over your
fear you can win anyone, what I learnt from my past life otherwise you’ll live
like Dumbo.
Focus on the present the here
and now and joy.
Now
it’s time to let go. Let go of the past, and stop reliving it. Stop telling
yourself that story where the protagonist you is forever the victim of this
other person’s horrible actions. You can’t undo the past, all you can do is to
make today the best day of your life.
When
you focus on the here and now, you have less time to think about the past. When
the past memories creep into your consciousness (as they are bound to do from
time to time), acknowledge them for a moment. And then bring yourself gently
back into the present moment. Some people find it easier to do this with a
conscious cue, such as saying to yourself, “It’s alright. That was the past,
and now I’m focused on my own happiness and doing.”
Remember, if we crowd
our brains and lives with hurt feelings, there’s little room for anything
positive. It’s a choice
you’re making to
continue to feel the hurt, rather than welcoming joy back into your life.
PS :- My open diary
blog is my memory diary , it’s now going to be 500 posts and
more than I lakh viewers in my blog . This is an open diary blog, where I wrote
my all experiences, if anyone read my whole blog he/she can gotta know 80-90% of my life
story till now, I never edit my past articles, if I edit then if
there is any grammatical mistake or put any image otherwise I never ever edit
my past articles, as it act like my memory . So don’t ever think I edit my
past posts and I do modifications, what was my mental status I wrote in that way.
I rarely care about what other think but now I really care so I promise I’ll
not do again that stupid mistakes. Because sometimes people got to know about your weakness and
sometimes you wrote something in anger and people take it seriously then you face problem for that. No one can save
you when you cut your own leg. So Don’t judge me based on my past articles ,
I can’t shout and can’t scold anyone if I face any injustices or problem , I take
writing and my blogger as main weapon to fight. Because I broadcast myself
before world, hopefully!
Now onward you’ll never get any articles like some of my past articles based
on failure issues and pain .