HOW YOU CAN BE A HAPPIEST PERSON

I love this quote most: "Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder." This is absolutely true. I have experienced this many times,  this quote is not only valid for happiness , this quotes valid for dream and many others issues too , so better don’t run after something , think smart and start working. 

True realization of life - Just 3 months before, I was different , different in the sense I always complaining about My failure life and worrying about everything , this is not my inborn personality but I become like this due to failure after failure . one day after attend happiness course- I came to realize that ,  I was in danger of wasting my life in worrying and thinking about something which I can’t change , I can modify my life style but I can’t change my past and I can’t get those things which I failed to get in my past even in present I can’t get everything what I want.  

Now one option before me either I should make myself happy or miserable, one question I repeatedly I ask myself - “What do I want from life?” I asked myself. “Well…I want to be happy. That’s the only thing I need in my life” I had many reasons to be happy: I have good family background , educational background , I have friends; I have good health condition too , I have everything still what actually brothers me then ? 

Well, now onwards I have decided I’ll never ever cry no matter whatever situation will come. I’ll make myself happier and along the way I learned a lot about how to be happier.

Here are those lessons. 

Accept the situation and people as they are

This quote is so powerful, which really changed myself so much. I am talking about myself whenever I look back I found myself a different person who can’t adjust with any situation. I still remember when I entered into my first hostel life after 10th board , I felt so happy because I love freedom and I feel I can do anything , no worry for routine kind of life what I usually follow in my home . but gradually I gotta know , the world is little bit complicated then slowly slowly I understand the world. In my engineering career - I really understand the world and my position as per the situation . I was a bad decision maker and always take decisions from my heart than my mind for which I became alone in the end and unnecessarily invite misery for some people who don’t even come to meet me when I was leaving my college. That day I have decided – I have to change. Then after coming my MBA school (Sri sri university) here I have learnt so many good life lessons and one of my favorite is ACCEPT PEOPLE AND SITUATION AS THEY ARE , this is 100% works , if you accept the people as they are then nothing will hurt you and you become like emotionless , may people think you are very sad inside but still you are strong as you already accept them as they are , but major problem will arise when it’s come to take a major decisions like – YOUR LIFE PARTNER , you shouldn’t compromise here , better be wise whom you are going to chose for your entire life, be sure ! that person is good enough not take you as a material only , but it doesn’t mean after your marriage also you’ll say I can’t compromise , you have to otherwise you’ll ruin 2 lives but when you have time , people and you can chose better so why you don’t do that then ? so now I am going to live my rest of my life as Accept the people and situation as they are , best way to avoid misery as people come and people go , good or bad situation comes and goes , nothing is permanent so why you are spoiling your rest of life for temporary situation and people , what mistake i did in my past when I was in engineering , I hope I’ll not repeat the same mistake again. If I’d do happiness course before my engineering then my life would go in smother way .

Don’t be the football of others opinion

I love this line – Words has no power to hurt anyone until unless person doesn’t matter. There are many times people can’t understand this fact , so judge yourself – when any outsider say something which really hurt us we react in different manner means we become more aggressive but when someone close to our heart says something we can’t be aggressive , tear fall down immediately instead of aggression . so here I wanna say , don’t give the key of your heart to anyone else otherwise some will misuse it and it will hamper your life latter , it happens with those who are emotional kind and take everything by heart . what I learnt from my past life , in this world if you wants to get success think more from mind rather than heart otherwise people will play game with your emotion and in the end you will be loser . I am saying as I am experienced – I never ever was in relationship but I always get hurt from my friends for that reason now I am wise and use my mind more than my heart. I still remember how I become failure personality and become alone, some incidents always strike in your mind till your death and you neither can forget the lesson nor can forget the memory easily . So from that day I promise myself I’ll use my heart less and use my mind more. 
Never listen others – take praising comments as achievements and negative comments as lessons but don’t take it by heart or ask yourself , what they are saying is it 100% correct or true. Listen your heart first before doubt yourself because of others comment.

Eliminate toxic people in your life and workplace.

This may be easier said than done, but avoid tying yourself to family, business partners, investors, or employees who make you unhappy. It's obviously harder to take the same approach with family members, but there's no reason to put up with people saying or doing things that are unkind. "If people say mean things to me, I let them know if they talk to me like that I'm going to walk away or hang up the phone". Better to avoid than react in any matter.

Be busy

The busier you are, the less time you have to think, especially, about something or someone who left you with negative feelings. Being busy is the best way to keep negative thoughts from provoking you repeatedly.

Buy some happiness. 

Our basic psychological needs include feeling loved, secure, and good at what we do. You also want to have a sense of control. Neither Money nor success automatically fill these requirements, but it sure can help some extend.  Having loving friends, a loving partner or a loving family could dramatically affect your happiness levels. When surrounded by love your big problems tend to be smaller and your life becomes happier. Social relationships in general could be used as a healthy escapement method from the storms of life, however don’t just escape without taking actions to solve your problems. Dampen your bad feelings by these beautiful relations and at the same time work towards solving your real problems. The name of happiness is Love – we all need love and we bonded with the chain of Love.

Never lose hope

There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel. Hope is something you can never afford to lose. With hope you always have a path towards happiness. Hope reminds you that everything will be ok. With hope, you know that whatever looks terrible is only temporary and that soon enough, things will be just fine.

Happiness is something we must do on purpose. In the midst of struggles or difficulties, we must choose to be happy. Happiness does not come from the acquisition of money or things; happiness begins from within each of us. Being happy within ourselves simply means showing mercy to ourselves, forgiving ourselves, befriending ourselves, accepting ourselves, and loving ourselves. It’s a lifelong journey that requires regular self-examination and an ongoing process of making peace with ourselves. It means discovering what makes us unhappy and choosing to live in peace. It means treating ourselves with compassion and kindness. It makes us to begin to enjoy life more and more and celebrate it as adventure in peace. It helps us to live life to the fullest, and help make the world a better place for us and others.

However, being happy within ourselves may be one of the most difficult challenges we will ever face. For some, this challenge may prove too difficult to handle, and as a result, they allow it to rule them. Many prefer to endure the challenges, while others love to overcome them.