I WIN YOU WIN

Think Win-Win isn't about being nice, nor is it a quick-fix technique. It is a character-based code for human interaction and collaboration. The term refers to a situation by which compromise, cooperation, or a participation in a group activity benefits all the people involved. It can be used to several aspects of everyday life – in business, organization, Love life relationship or even in a personal relationship. In this situation, there is no loser nor winner as both parties will have their fair share of success.

Most of us learn to base our self-worth on comparisons and competition. We think about succeeding in terms of someone else failing--that is, if I win, you lose; or if you win, I lose. Life becomes a zero-sum game. There is only so much pie to go around, and if you get a big piece, there is less for me; it's not fair, and I'm going to make sure you don't get anymore. We all play the game, but how much fun is it really? Win-win is a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions

A person or organization that approaches conflicts with a win-win attitude possesses three vital character traits:

1.Integrity: sticking with your true feelings, values, and commitments

2.Maturity: expressing your ideas and feelings with courage and consideration for the ideas and feelings of others

3.Abundance Mentality: believing there is plenty for everyone

Best traits we should follow in win-win relationship

GIVE UP THE THINKING LIKE “I-win –YOU-Lose” ATTITUDE.

In this manner, the person is more likely to achieve more positive results than when he worked selfishly and created a win-lose situation. it’s a kind of short term success , where one point come that person become great loser because of such kind of attitude . which can’t help anyone . if you wanna be a great player then play from mind and let others win too , when you are in a relationship , care about each other , as you don’t know when you need her /his help. Mutual cooperation is badly needed when you are in a relationship. You both have to help each other to get more success in life.

TALK ABOUT YOUR THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS

Most people tend to act their emotions first without expressing or acknowledging them. They argue, get angry, hold in stressful emotions through denial, avoidance, or restless moving from one place to another. Every time we experience pain, we tend to go out, party all night, or drink to forget, Some also refuse to connect with friends and family when they get angry or frustrated, without trying to work things out or learning from their mistakes. Unfortunately, these habits that we acquired since childhood days , can’t help you more in your Corporate life or Personal love life , sometimes it become so worst, it also ruin your relationship with people who matter deeply to you.

Instead of you holding pain inside, best choice is in improving ourselves, and in being the best that we can be.

The best way to avoid the pain is “the love in action”, start sharing pain with your close people which always has a positive solution it also prevent power-struggle, better understanding, and cooperation.

STOP BLAMING OTHERS.

Oftentimes, we tend to be upset when someone (either a family member or a partner) tells or does something wrong. When this happens, Identify the factors that made you upset, your triggers. If you are more angry than hurt, then you should know that what lies underneath anger is pain and pain, most of the time, is about not getting what you need most. If needs are not meant for us then chances are, our well-being is disturbed.

Discuss your pain with your family members or your partner. Seek advises from them as they might know what you need to be able to fulfill the dream or business and to create a free and brand-new you.

NEVER TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY.

Usually, we take things personally because we are locked in our ego sometimes we also dwell in the scars of our past or we buy the projections of our past environment. The key to avoiding this is to free ourselves from our ego and pain of the past , Letting go means telling yourself that you are not a child anymore, you have survived already, and things can only get better and not worst. Do not allow yourself to react too much on the criticisms of your partner or friends or family member. In this manner, you won’t have to deal with unnecessary distress and you will be more calm and positive in perceiving things.

NO ASSUMPTIONS.

Expectations and assumptions will only waste your time and energy as they will only generate pointless confusion and disappointment. Keep in mind that we should not really expect and assume. Instead, we should focus on enhancing everything that we have on the present – particularly our relationship with co-workers, family, and friends.

Be open, honest, and clear in discussing them. Ask questions frankly and explanations and be very free and frank with your needs, wishes, and expectations. Listen carefully to what your partner or family member has to say.

Good relationships in business or real life relationships don’t just happen. They are the result of honesty, integrity, respect, commitment, trust, confidence, and openness. In any healthy relationship, partners create an environment that encourages continuous improvement, risk taking, a long-term perspective, and of course are win-win relationships. Clearly, the stronger these attributes are, the more enduring your partnerships become.