DON’T ALLOW DRAMA IN YOUR LIFE

 “When you are not honouring the present moment by allowing it to be, you are creating drama.” ~Eckhart Tolle

We all play various roles in our everyday life or can say we are the actor and actress of ur role play even it don’t limit up to actor and actress, it extend up to 

joker and villain too, but some people always look for drama or can say unnecessary drama, btw do you ever know someone who is always gossiping and looking for drama? Frankly saying, Tons of people thrive on drama. I see it all the time in our day today life and I feel the number goes up the more mature become. Some drama is normal of course like day today harmless drama but some are really ridiculous .I believe drama is one of the most unnecessary and unproductive patterns we can have in a relationship. 

Why do we get so easily sucked into drama?

It’s because our mind is not constructed in that way from the beginning of the earth I mean the world isn’t predictable at all.  We want things to be easy, comfortable and well-ordered or can say we are and as we imagine.  Unfortunately, sometimes it becomes hectic, relationships are challenging, people demand changing, we aren’t as prepared as we’d like to be that’s why it reflects on our personal lives or can say our family frustrate on us, and we spend our time on making time lines of our work like there’s just too much to doubt can’t do anything properly due to our dramatic life then slowly slowly we learn and process in our minds.

Why is drama so bad in any relationship? 

It’s simply exhausting and mentally limiting. It either leaves you feeling like a 

jerk or a helpless victim. Neither of which help you solve any problems or

improve your life, especially those people who are in a relationship with you to

get benefited from you. Simple truth is- drama in our life leave us feeling
cynical and drained of energy. It saps our ability to respond to life with
creativity and playfulness.

How drama affects our relationships and plays a big role in our life

Everyone have a purpose or goal for where they want to be? 

So what about your relationship? 

Are you or that person adding value to your life or have you sat back and allowed life to do whatever it wants? 

Do you ever think about what you can do every day to keep this relationship growing, which neither can be value added to your life nor let to develop by yourself?

That’s why one of the questions I always ask to myself, when I am deciding whether to stay in a relationship or not, is -what has my time with this person taught me? Can he continue to contribute to my life and my goals?

Some of you might think that this is a selfish way to think about it. But is it really selfish? I just think any serious relationship needs to add value to your life, other than having someone to tell you “I love you”, and who will always go to the cinema with you. That’s why it’s also important to ask your partner the same questions to understand if you can do the same for them.

I’m saying all of this with the assumption that you actually want someone who will add value to your life. Hopefully, your partner knows you better than anyone else, or at least as well as your closest friends and family, and can support you in ways that even your best friend may not be able to.

People I see often talk about compromise in their relationships, compromise comes when drama begins, and here drama means your fake behaviours. Yes, I also believe in compromising in a relation but how long and is it affects you indirectly specially your dream or goal. 

Well, if you spend your time focusing on how you can adjust and make everything perfect rather than how you can add value to your life or your partner’s life, then you’re missing out on growth. It is not a good sign for your future, so analyse your compromises before it’s become hectic.

In any relations when there is mutual understanding and mutual growth or can say consistently and to add value to their life , then I don’t think there should not be any major problem with your goal as well as relationship as you are giving your 100% but some problems are unavoidable in our life , which comes and will come .  If you focus on only yourself then this can’t and won’t happen.  If you become valuable in their eyes and in their heart then compromise disappears and giving takes over.

When you give from your heart and truly mean it then you give without expectation of anything in return.

Success in anything or in other words the definition of success varies from person to person as per their perceptive and goal  – be it your career, your hobbies, your relationship , making name and fame , earn huge money and have a luxurious life etc.

So have a great relations with your partner is best medicine to stay healthy and happy. Healthy relationship means successful life.

That’s why relationship is first stepping stone towards your success, when you both have same mind set, may be different dreams or can say perfect compatibility. as after a certain stage we all need a partner , our family and friends will stay with us up to a certain age so be with a relationship where drama has no role but it can play big role when someone shade tear otherwise a person who can bring best out of you not stress out of you.

Choosing a right partner who can avoid drama -

1. Find someone who can help you overcome your weaknesses not a stress pill for you.

2. Help you move from a materialized world to civilised world.

3.   Spurt your spiritual growth

So now you ask this question to yourself ,are you adding value to your partner?

Why we create drama?

1.  We are you allowing someone to live in your head without our knowledge? 

2. When we are in pain. 

3. When we feel bored. 

4.Some people born with such kind of mind set

5. When we want to get profit or help.

Always remember, there's nothing to distract you from reaching peak awesomeness.

How you can deal with DRAMA personally

1. Genuinely move forward- Needless drama doesn’t just walk into your life out of nowhere – you either create it, invite it, or associate with those who bring it.

2. Don't Take Things Personally All The Time - Do your best not to judge other people, for you do not know their pain or sorrows.  If you cannot speak a kind word, say nothing at all.  And if they cannot speak a kind word, say nothing at all.

3. Focus on yourself more - Most people make themselves unhappy simply by finding it impossible to accept life just as it is presenting itself right now.  Be mindful. When you are no longer able to change a situation, you are challenged to change yourself.  And that changes everything. Work hard in silence, do what you have to do, and ignore the drama and negativity surrounding you.  Let your success be your noise.

4. Not obsessing over things that can't be changed -Don’t bother worrying about whether there will be problems.  There will be plenty of them, and you’ll work your way through every one of them. Worrying is a misuse of your incredible creative energy.  Instead of imagining the worst, imagine the best and how you can bring it about.

5.  You focus on more productive things - When you focus your heart and mind upon a purpose, and commit yourself to fulfil that purpose through small daily steps, positive energy floods into your life. .It’s OK to make mistakes.  That’s how you get wiser.  Give yourself a break, and don’t give up or give in to negativity!  Good things take time, and you’re getting there.

6. You're able to identify drama in the future before it happens- Remember, letting go of drama isn’t about having the ability to forget the past; it’s about having the wisdom and strength to embrace the present.