CHANGE IS THE ONLY SOLUTION

The biggest lesson I learnt from my past life “Always help yourself first. Because if you are not happy, you won't be able to help anyone.” Yes , that’s the only reason now I just want to stay away from issues which is longer can help me in my life.

In this world everything which happens to you, not everything is bad, same as, not everything is good also sometimes you have to just ignore the bad one and move towards the good one. There are mutually exclusive. It’s not necessarily that always it’s the best idea to help people, sometimes helping yourself is the best decision you can make for yourself and here are the reasons why I change myself and my way of thinking as per the changing time:

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” – Dalai Lama

1. Everyone don’t deserve for help

“As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.” ~ Audrey Hepburn

We were taught from our childhood days helping people is the right thing to do. You need to change this popular belief in your future, this is why I am going to tell you.

My brain always listen my heart in the early stage of my life but as I grow younger and I realised that I am wrong , I should change this thinking as sometimes people take the advantage of it that’s why now a days, I have stopped offering my knowledge for free as I know everything in this world is not cheap specially your knowledge you get in your life as I realized when I seek for getting help in knowledge when I need it most , I rarely get that and at that time Google helped me to find out the answer.

If people don’t care about you, you also shouldn’t help them. If people can’t help you when you need most even they can help still if they are not helping you, they don’t deserve your help too.

This is my changing life principle and I love it as I realize it’s the best way to get a successful life.

Rule 1: Never offer anything for free either advice or a helping hand, if they don’t help you when you need or your enemy’s friend.

Rule 2: Never ever forget Rule 1, no matter who are they.

People will always try to exploit you if you allow them to. You don’t have the time to help everyone, only help people who deserve your help.

Remember, the first person you need to help is yourself as sometimes you need to help yourself to rise the style of living and become a successful life. If helping people makes you unhappy, don’t do it. Simple.

Sometimes you have to be selfish and put yourself before anyone else. Ignore what society is urging you to do, sometimes society is the itself faulty.

2. Stop Helping People Who Don’t Appreciate Your Help;

My biggest weakness is that I like to help people from the beginning of my life that’s why now I am a great looser indirectly as I put themselves first.

The easiest way to turn your friend into an enemy is offering them advice they don’t want to hear as sometimes ego factor works most here.

A random act of kindness can change someone’s life but it can also destroy yours too, what I realize my later.

Why we help people?

1.     It makes us feel better about ourselves;

2.     It connects us with another person, at least for a moment, if not for life;

3.     It improves the life of another, at least a little;

4.     It makes the world a better place, one little step at a time;

5.     And if that kindness is passed on, it can multiply, and multiply.

But you should know whom to help and whom you should not and where to start?

I believe Help someone who can’t help you back, that’s the biggest help you can do for someone else-

1.     Smile and be friendly.

2.     Donate something you don’t use.

Give food, medicine and some cloths to those who don’t have like refuse or orphans. They need it badly.

3.     Make a donation.

Be wise enough whom you donate, there are still many people who are below poverty line and still waiting for getting help. Your small act of kindness can help them in some extend.

4.     Redirect gifts.

During any festival time, give gifts to small poor kids is best way to help them.

5.     Teach.

Teaching is best service, teach poor kids and make their life lighten is best way to expand your knowledge in right direction.

6.     Help them take action

Help the poor people to fight for their right and help them to develop in their life.

7.     Buy food and make home for a homeless person.

This may be expensive but not difficult if you have dream to do this. I believe everything is possible until unless you fight for that.

8.     Show appreciation, publicly

Sometimes little apparition and encouragement to change someone’s life so give it freely.

9.     Just be there.

When someone you know is in need, sometimes it’s just good to be there. Sit with them. Talk. Help out if you can.

10.                        Love.

Simply finding ways to express your love to others, whether it be your partner, child, other family member, friend, co-worker, or a complete stranger. Just express your love. A hug, a kind word, spending time, showing little kindnesses, being friendly. It all matters more than you know.

How far that little candle throws his beams, so shines a good deed in a weary world. – William Shakespeare

My heart felt words –

Whenever I look back to my past days , sometimes I feel like I am a worst decision maker ever in my life as most of my decisions are from directly from heart and it can’t help me longer in my life .

Yes , I help many people who can’t help me back and that’s my great achievement in my life and I am happy for that and feel proud of that what I did in past but I seriously repent for those help which makes me loser as I help some who don’t deserve too.

Whenever I sit silently, I ask my LORD silently

" AM I A BAD CREATURE, SO WHY YOU ALWAYS TOOK EVERYTHING FOR ME AND GIVE IT TO OTHERS???

If it is my past life bad karma then I apologize for that and give me all punishment what I deserve in this life but not my next life and make it over as soon as possible as I already tolerate a lot , I can’t tolerate a loser and a failure life in longer period ever in my life ."

Whenever I look back to my past days , sometimes I feel like I am a worst decision maker ever in my life as most of my decisions are from directly from heart and it can’t help me longer in my life .

Yes , I help many people who can’t help me back and that’s my great achievement in my life and I am happy for that what I did in past but I seriously repent for those help which makes me loser as I help some who don’t deserve too. but now my life principle change a lot -

I know Faith makes everything possible but you have to sit silently and work accordingly.

Whenever I look back and I see some people who are now in better position than me, I feel good, Thanks God, one day for them only I got a hope to rise in my life, I still remember I have many craze of different people and now they are BIG face or can say celebrity whereas I am still struggling. It's not about my college or school friends as none of them are celebrity or big face they are where they should be and now I can realize why those who actually go for doing something Good they are unnoticed, some rewards you'll get later on but still it has value too so it's better to wait for that day.

Social media has positive impact in your life which no one can disagree but yes! You should know where you should move and what you should do.

Some memories flash back today #Rock star #songs #poems #writing #novel #short stories ^_^

Thanks God, you always motivate me through some people but I didn't know my life is too slow or can say tortoise life as I choose myself that.

I am not loser but I can say myself I didn't expose myself better , that's the only reason why it's take a long time to some people to work hard and some people work less . I didn't expose myself before people and I should overcome my weakness and fear that hampers my life and dream.

SOMETIMES TO MAKE YOUR DREAM TRUE , YOU HAVE TO WORK ON YOUR WEAKNESS , TOO MUCH HONESTY KILLS YOU FIRST , As per ChanaKya says- Straight tree cut first honest person die first .

ONE DAY I GONNA WIN AND GET EVERYTHING I DESERVE, THAT NOBODY CAN SNATCH FROM ME.