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Everyone in this world deserves to be loved irrespective of their race, religion, caste and status.
We born original with loving environment, and when we opened our eyes we see our first love “our parents’ who love us unconditionally but as per we grow up, we divide ourselves within a complex era of worthy and non-worthiness but does it really matters, when you’ll die who gonna tell you how worthy you are until unless you really did something remarkable, in this temporary world we want everything permeant which is our biggest mistake. just go out for your illustration era and see the world through child’s eye, you’ll find this world is very beautiful, acceptance and loving as well (grow and let everyone to grow.)
When we are in a child stage we love our family and parents more than anything and few of our friends as we grow up, our priority changes – we start loving our career, personal growth much than anyone else as that become our superior priority as that is attached with money and status which indirectly bring our near dear people towards us, this is the exact proverb to describe the above statement – "Beggars have no friends".
So we all want love but do we really get that.
For a while forget about family love that comes from parents and own brother or sister as that is permanent, I am talking about those love which made by us, who become a part of our lives by our choice.
We all have at least 1 or 3 boyfriends or girlfriends in entire student life, maybe more than that and lucky are those who have one and only till death, I call them rarest of the rare human love species. Seriously as I find very fewer people who have such love story and I love to hear that if I’ll get one. I have only 3 friends in my whole student career who are comes under this rarest of the rare species as they belong to same caste and religion as well and the boys are earning also well. True story.
Still, there are so many girls and boys who are still single till they find someone suitable for the lifetime. I am talking about me - after entering into job life I realize the missing part of having a boyfriend in life as during college you don’t need to worry for anything, only study and your friends were there to gossip – study before the exam is enough. but in work life you have to go to office daily and work hard – after coming from the office you need someone to talk and share your problems or during the weekend you need a partner with whom you can roam around the city, no tension for late coming and security as well. So much fun if you have a love in your life and it actually affects your productivity in work as well. If you have a happy social life, you will be happy in work life as well as both are interlinked with emotions.
But does everyone lucky to have a perfect love life like how we are expecting –
Nowadays jealously and third person entry spoils many love lives with career than anything, I always believe that it starts with and from us.
WHEN A WOMAN STARTS SUPPORTING ANOTHER WOMAN AT THAT TIME WE CAN BRING SO MANY CHANGES IN THE SOCIETY.
Like how, I am going to give you many examples from there you can clearly understand what I mean to say –
1) In the workplace, if all women support NO TO FLIRT & NO TO ANY KIND OF CORRUPTION then no one has guts to force you even nowadays in corporate sectors you’ll find many women leaders, it is not because they flirt with their boss. It means that they have talent. Take an example of UBER – CHIEF BRAND MANAGER "Bozoma Saint John". Looks rarely matters when it comes to talent and company’s growth. Company doesn’t stand with someone’s beauty but yes! now a days smartness is a new makeover on beauty .you need not be so beautiful with dump brain, the company don’t care as money can transform anyone into beautiful. The company is looking your support and talent. But still some Indian companies are looking for beauty over talent .Now a days beauty with brain matters (beauty comes in many forms), still some flirts to reach into the top. so I just want to say – stop flirting culture, work hard and get something that you deserve, if you are in marketing then sweet talk and awesome gesture don’t mean that you are flirting with your clients but your work needs such gestures. We should know the difference between the flirt and be professional, people always do the mistake of mixing all.
2) In home or family – if we can love our mother, we can love our wife as well in the same way like we love our mother but it should not reverse as well, as she gives you birth. After a marriage life a girl’s life change drastically as she has to care for 2 families like her own, 2 fathers and 2 mothers and she can’t do any kind of injustices with anyone as one who gives her birth, show the world and make her eligible to stand in her own leg and another parents who support her and give her a new identity and whole life support promises. So 2 families matter a lot. She can’t ignore anyone as both plays important role, one is her past and present, another family is her present and future where she gonna spend her rest of the life. So in a family 2 women should support each other. Like my mom always tells – my mom is very lucky to have a mother in law who was so sweet and very caring and no one can be like her. All woman should be like this, then only we can bring changes in the society.
3) Some ugliest culture in society – which leads to human trafficking and make the environment dirty and distract the minds of people from the true form of love. You know why rape cases are more in some places because it starts with our culture. if we start respecting our women at home we can pay the same respect to other women as well. of course, we are human and we have feelings as well, I am not talking about that but we don’t dare to do the crimes like rape, rape is a culture which starts from our own culture and home environment as well. If we start behaving well, if all women stop being jealous of another woman, if all women start supporting other women, if all women stand for another woman, such kind of issues will never ever arise.
4) Third party entry – Nowadays divorce cases are happening more due to a third person either in the life of man or woman or in other words husband or wife. Nowadays being loyal is really a difficult task but I really can’t understand why, Maybe I see the world in a different view or it can be the reason of misunderstanding and feel insecurity, whatever the reason may be. once you marry someone means stay with that man and woman for lifetime, you may flirt with anyone for benefits (still it is your choice, beggars have no choice- in corporate. If everyone is doing you have to as you are handling a whole family you can’t ruin your family’s future for being fake loyal) but still you are loyal to your wife and children when you are at home and family. Keep the office thing in office and come home with the homely feeling, always maintain gap otherwise, some of the office issues may start interrupting your family life as well. Keep your family life and professional balance and be wise. As per my words – DO HARMLESS FLIRT LIKE HOW A MARKETING PERSON DO – sweet coated lips, great gesture and at the same time say no to SEX. Sometimes being wise and being flirty is not bad but you should know when to do what, how to take steps and which steps are harmful and which are the lifesaver. be careful, otherwise, you may face hell lots of problem in future and no one will be there to rescue you as this world is not so friendly for those, who are trying to be successful – take every steps carefully then only you can have CLEAN CHARACTER, GREAT FAMILY LIFE with GOOD CORPORATE LIFE AS WELL. For a woman she can flirt up to 35-40 years maximum, a man can flirt for the lifetime. That’s why if a woman can continue her job till her 40 years then she can handle up to 60 years as well and 25-35 years age is the most insecure period for a woman living in the corporate sector.
Just think can’t 5 women beat 2 men, in a family is there only 1 to 2 women only exist then where the cruelty and rape culture arise. In our family if mother in laws behave rudely with her daughter in law, mother doesn’t love her daughter much how much she loves her son , a wife doesn’t faithful to her husband and doesn’t show the importance and respect how much his husband deserve to be - cruelty, hate and disrespect arise from that point in time . It all starts from home and our culture.
FIRST CHANGE THE CULTURE, EVERYTHING WILL FALL IN RIGHT PLACE.
Every woman deserves to be...
1. If she is not good looking, so what! She is smart and she can give better future to your children than who is may be the most beautiful girl but not loyal to you, here your family life is like worthless. So love is superior to beauty from my point of view – if you think about your future.
2. A divorce and widow also deserve to be loved in her life – being single mother or single in this complicated world is really terrific, here you don’t know what you gonna face. So having a life partner is badly needed irrespective of anyone. Every woman needs a life partner as a soul mate and as a lifetime bodyguard. of course, our husband is our like our bodyguard – no matter whether he is rich or poor but he knows how to handle his wife and save her respect – if he truly loves her even he doesn’t like her much still all man care until unless he is really cruel.
3. A good looking and modern mindset is also deserved to be loved. If a girl has guy best friend it doesn’t mean she is characterless, she wants to know more things about boys which she may not know. as sometimes our behaviour makes us a negative personality, which we even don’t know but having a male best friend you can get to know so many things how boys actually think and what are the bad gestures. In this world girls also exists who believes in being modern with their dressing sense to looks and having the male best friend still don’t have much idea about sex. So don’t judge the book by looking at its cover so likewise, a woman can be very friendly but it doesn’t mean she is not lonely from inside. you can’t understand a woman until unless you wear her shoe and walk along with her, then only you realize her life, her struggle and you’ll find many women suffers from mental issues to physical issues as well , as the society wants she should be perfect but when she becomes perfect she can’t have a good enjoyable life and she can’t make friends and cut off with social life as well, no one is perfect and the world is not taking everyone equally. Some women are born to be criticized for no reason.
So this is all about the woman, so what’s about the man.
We always think that all men are strong so they don’t have many worries like women, we are wrong, ladies. Absolutely. A true gentleman struggles more than a woman.
1) Men struggle for status, career and money.
2) Men struggle with getting a nice and beautiful girl in his life if he is not so successful
3) Men struggle with getting a proper life after spending so much money for his wife and children. He sacrifices so many things to make his family happy.
4) Men really emotionally more weak than women. Handling a man is like handling a grown baby if he really loves you. You’ll find many different faces still you should acts like, ok, nothing happened. Like when my papa is really angry with me – I smile, that’s how I adopt this quality of laughing in a serious moment. As in fight you can hurt them but can’t heal them.
5) Some men are so broken, it takes years for them to rise until unless they find someone who really trusts worthy, whom he can love and who can’t leave his side no matter what.
Every man deserves to be loved irrespective of their looks and status.
I just want to say one thing to all ladies – Stop running after the rich and handsome man – better be beautiful and rich by your self and give surprises gifts to your loved one. See the difference. Men actually love the gifts and but they’ll criticize you by anyway and worst in keeping but they love to keep something which is really close to their heart otherwise don’t give chocolates, flowers or any card or sweet home decorator to any man, they’ll lose it – Best gifts for all kind of men as per their career choice , motive your man to have a hobby besides their working life which can be a big support for them as while taking care of whole family they actually forget that they have a life and they can do anything besides their monotones job which doesn’t make any sense except money and status, so if your man is really interested in singing – gift him guitar or any musical instrument, I sware he’ll keep it . If your man is sports person – give him as per his choice so choose a gift which he can utilize for daily basis in this way you’ll be always in his heart and he can proudly say yes! This is gifted by my loved one. So let’s help each other, don’t just being a life partner – having kids and handle a family and home, along with all – live your life first as you have got one life. Do whatever you want.
If you run after money then it is meaningless – earn how much you can to live a peaceful life and maintain a family status and make your parents feel proud of you. That’s it. Rest spend of yourself and enjoy your life fullest.
So love is possible and I believe everyone deserves to be loved so love all and please change the culture where it is needed. It will take time still it is worth to fight.