FEAR PARALYZE OUR SUCCESS COMPLETELY

I think someone needed to hear that today. Perhaps you are embarking on something you’ve never done before. Perhaps you have wanted to do something, but every time you think about it, it just seems too hard. But the truth is with God all things are possible. What is that really saying? When you trust God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength, which includes being made perfect in love without any fear, then anything is possible!

All fears are learned; no one is born with fears.

Fears can therefore be unlearned by practicing self discipline repeatedly with regard to fear until it goes away. The most common fears that we experience, which often sabotage all hope for success, are the fears of failure, poverty, and loss of money. These fears cause people to avoid risk of any kind and to reject opportunity when it is presented to them. They are so afraid of failure that they are almost paralyzed when it comes to taking any chances at all.

There are many other fears that interfere with our happiness. as well. People fear the loss of love or the loss of their jobs and their financial security. People fear embarrassment or ridicule. People fear rejection and criticism of any kind. People fear the loss of respect or esteem of others. These and many other fears hold us back throughout life.

Fight with your FEARS

The most common reaction in a fear situation is the attitude of, “I can’t!” This is the fear of failure and loss that stops us from taking action. It is experienced physically, starting in the solar plexus. When people are really afraid, their mouth and throat go dry, their heart starts pounding.

Your ability to confront, deal with, and act in spite of your fears is the key to happiness and success. One of the best exercises you can practice is to identify a person or situation in your life of which you are afraid and resolve to deal with that fear situation immediately. Do not allow it to make you unhappy for another minute. Resolve to confront the situation or person and put the fear behind you.
When you identify a fear and discipline yourself to move toward it, it grows smaller and more manageable. What’s more, as your fears grow smaller, your confidence grows.  Soon, your fears lose their control over you.

In contrast, when you back away from a fear-inducing situation or person, your fear grows larger and larger.  Soon it dominates your thinking and feeling, preoccupies you during the day, and often keeps you awake at night.

Fear can paralyze your life wholly so be careful what you are choosing – either brave & live fullest or fear & die before your actual death

Now I gonna share how I become victim of my own weakness

“Never fear otherwise people will frightened you”

This is true because I experienced this, I have seen some people get amused to make people irritate but they never think about its consequences. So I learnt one valuable lesson from my life “never fear anything, bravely fight where you know you are right & whatever you are doing that also right, most important is - win over your weakness first”. Because people take this as main weapon to down you, so be careful whom you are telling your weakness.

 Now I gonna share my all experiences

When I was in school I actually fear the love issues so whenever anyone say I LOVE YOU , first I tried to convince him that “I can’t do” , if he further don’t listen then I complain before my teachers. Even most of the teachers love me therefore I never face any problem in school life; my all complains granted easily.

I am very conscious about my character & love issues from beginning of my life. It doesn’t mean I don’t feel for anyone but I fear because of my study. My family had great expectation on me that I’ll get medical one day which I never wanna break by hook or by crook I have to get that , even my parents told me - after getting medical I can do anything , full freedom , so I concentrate on future than present , now also I am like that . about character matter no one can say anything wrong about me , that much guaranty I can give , if anyone want he/she can check my whole character background from my school life to till now. I am very conscious, don’t know why. I have many boys circle even I love to make friendship with boys as they are very cooperative than girls, but I always make some distance from committed people. As my all problems arise from them , but in school there were less committed people so I can make friendship with every guys but after coming 11th board everyone become committed ,except some like me types people. But I never changed , no doubt 2 guys proposed me but I follow same procedure like school – I complain before my teachers , actually I didn’t mean to complain but when I see situation is out of my control I complain at that time. even in KIIT also one day I came across same situation when I forced to complain about those guys – actually in KIIT advertisement in telegraph paper I & another girl’s photo was published , actually that was for advertisement  purpose only. But when I came to class all guys shout & start joining my name, 2 days repeatedly I suffer mentally actually I too hate indiscipline, finally I complained before my lecture as I too hate indiscipline & such kind of behavior, it’s ok, if you love me silently, I can bear this as I know myself -I am not that kind of girl who accept all proposals but I hate when my name spread all over the college, even getting medical was my biggest headache at that time. So I always concentrate my study, I had no time for love. Like this my time passed in KIIT means my 12th board .yes, I faced problems but only for my study except that no in other matters, my career & dream is my biggest weakness. If anyone tries to ruin that I never forgive them.

Then I coaching classes for getting medical – my all 7 roommates were committed except me , finally I couldn’t bear them & shifted to another room as I couldn’t bear their fight & everyday night out talk in phone even I never face such environment before I tried to adjust but didn’t have enough time to compromise with my study , that actually hamper my study . even I fear if love disease attack me too, because whenever I look at them I also wish to have a boy friend , funny but true as I have no such friend with whom I can share my problems except my parents even sometimes they also get irritate after listening everyday complain from food to roommate issues , no doubt at that time there also 2 guys for whom I faced problems later, from 2 guys - one of them is one of my changed room mate’s lover but I didn’t know at first, I have no such feelings so I talk with that guy as he cleared my physics doubts even he was a brilliant student too. but when I came to know my roommate love him & she don’t like when I talk with him , I stop going evening time classes even I stop talking with him as I don’t wanna hurt my friend for any boy matter , I can get many friends like him but if she lose him she can’t get . Till now, I have many boys circle but all are for friendship purpose. But don’t know after looking at everyone slowly I also inclined towards love matters \seriously/. I mainly easily attracted towards innocent & well behaved boys. Then if I make friendship with other guys that for work matters like – either getting books or doubt clear etc. but I can proudly say , my all friend circle were good but most of the cases we broke up because of love issues as I give much priority to friendship than love. Actually my heart says to love , but my mind says “No , wait till that day when you can get a perfect match” , my mind says to be LOYAL but My heart says ACCEPT ALL . But most of the cases I listen my mind.  So I never face love related problems, except my education. Wherever I go I mainly suffer due to my BIG DREAM & EDUCATIONAL MATTERS. AS THESE ARE MY MAIN WEAKNESS, ANYONE CAN EASILY VISUALIZE THESE. SO SOME TAKE REVENGE THROUGH THESE too.

Then when I came IIIT, for the first time I show that I am in love too, that’s the most stupid work I ever did in my life. Even there is a reason behind – Read my Open Diary – http://poemstoryshayari.blogspot.in/2013/06/my-hostel-life-from-12th-class-to-whole_4604.html - https://www.scribd.com/…/…/MY-LIFE-IS-LIKE-AN-OPEN-DIARY-pdf - My Mini Biography - you can understand the whole matter clearly - No doubt I told , but my all feelings are like WATER BUBBLE , burst easily , that’s why I can say I was never ever in love because Love never dies or fails or transfer from one body to another , but I did one biggest mistake – till now my all friends are very nice because I choose my friends either boys or girls as per my personality , but for the first time I choose to make friendship with a guy who is good but not deserve for my friendship , actually he had many best friends , many girl friends – which I didn’t know no doubt my close friends warn me before making friendship , but I didn’t listen as he behave me well through internet @FACEBOOK, SERIOUSLY :P till now I never talk with that guy in college too but my name spoiled in many ways. When I got know about him , I decided to break my friendship but before breaking my friendship I warn him to give up all bad habits & I wanna know some truth that’s actually my main motto behind my friendship – now also my all Messages in my Gmail accounts. But I was too fool to make friendship with him ,I realized my mistake when I tried to break up our friendship, I lose my all friends even many rumors spread in my name . Actually that guy has many friend circle BOYS EVEN GIRLS, where as I have less or can say I have only 5 friends in whole college. After that cases I stop talking with all boys in my colleges , whereas I have 2 lab partner in my 1st semester both were boys but after this case I fear to talk with every boys. My greatest mistake is – I told my weakness , I have told if anyone try to spoil my character I’ll kill him/her. Even he knows my friends are my great weakness.  

1st rumor spread through song – composed by our own college boys even well written & sang by them too , no doubt song is awesome but hidden meaning is bad , it’s a kind of they are scolding a girl who cheat a boy like –WHY THIS KOLABARI- KOLABARI DI SONG- same type but different , 1st some use my name there then spoil my name in social media through my friends actually some are getting fun as I too irritate on this matter , I hate that guy so when they join my name I couldn’t control & do some kind of work which make them laugh , they did these for fun purpose I know that but they didn’t know how much that had great impact on my mind, so finally I stop talking with everyone because of unnecessarily blamed , but it hurt me badly when I lose my best friends & rest of my close childhood to college friends as I have told my IIIT friends in anger “I have my school friends & 12th time friends , they will help me & they are my real friends not you people.” May be for that reason I lose all most all, whenever I came to chat in facebook my friends always asked me – are you committed ? such kind of question actually make me irritate , whereas that guy has already a girl friend , means one side I wanna kill myself for my stupidity another side I couldn’t concentrate even can’t say anything to anyone what’s actually happening with me . the day it hurt me badly when some try to spoil my name indirectly through my own school & college friends in social media means in 3rd semester time , I still remember those days –One question always strike in my mind - what actually I did? why they do like this ? I couldn’t understand how to solve my all problems, everyone take me in wrong sense but I couldn’t explain because whenever I tried to explain something everyone take me fake , so it’s a hilarious kind . so in my whole college I never face any difficulties which can spoil my name but through internet , they well known it’s not easy to spoil my name as NO ONE HAS THAT MUCH GUTS TO TALK ANYTHING WRONG WITHOUT ANY PROOF , ANYONE CAN SHOW FALSE PROOF , BUT REAL PROOF NO ONE CAN DO. How can they proof if I never talk with any guy in my real life or in college or outside, but through internet. So from that day I use internet as main weapon for communication, through internet no one can do anything wrong with anyone, yeah, anyone can do but police also there like fake profile.  Even my 2 face book & once my Gmail account hacked .so these cases has great impact on my study too ,after making friendship not only I lose my friends but also I became hated person before many . Which actually spoiled my career? most of my friends indirectly silently support these as they can’t see my success too *one day one of my friend from different friend circle  *those who actually hate me* told me that they knowingly did these, as they did n’t want I should concentrate on my study even for social work or for any reputed work character should be perfect so they knowingly do this, after hearing this I can’t believe but later I forced to believe, she told me not to tell before anyone so today I share before all, I BREAK FROM INSIDE. SHE IS INNOCENT SO SHE TOLD ME, BUT WHEN SHE TOLD I ALREADY SPOILED MY 5th SEMESTER  from that day I become careful*. 

So from that day I learn one great lesson = never say your weakness before anyone otherwise you will fail in life race.

I am not too fool, I never do such kind of work where I’ll face problem but for the first time I face problem for internet even for that internet I got lots of help too. but internet has many positive effects than negative. So I wanna thanks social media + internet.  

Even I have seen what I fear most I always faced that, I fear if anyone say anything ill about me but people knowingly do this to spoil my career or dream. Even I love my education, I am very competitive but I always face problem there. I love to live simple but finally ended with one conclusion that be complicated if you wanna survive.

Something really make me laugh:-

I have seen many of my friends who have many boyfriends /lovers even some change time to time no one ruin their name but if I talk with someone through internet I did a big crime.

My all friends are committed so I know a committed life , you can’t say you are committed but you never kiss , it’s a kind of SAINT CAT , ha , but nobody speak anything ill about them whereas I have no boy friend till now but my name spoiled . Sometimes I also ask one question to myself how it’s possible ? before telling anything how some people lose their sense, they should have proof to show. Am I doing everything THROUGH CODING MEANS THROUGH INTERNET: P?

Many of my friends go park & hotel even spend night but no one say them anything – I chat till 4 o’clock am, I am bad. As I am chatting late night. Till now I never did video chat, this is true except my very close friends & all are girls.

Many of my friends talk day & night with boys but nobody talk about them even I never talk I still blamed.

Many of my friends wear minis & do make up but nobody talk about them if once I do make up people comments me like I gonna be heroine .whereas I am very simple in my real life.

Ha, why people so rude for me or I fear so they love to irritate me. even you can go through my all background from school to college you can’t get any bad remark from my teachers  to sweepers but don’t know why my friends don’t love me. This is the biggest pain in my life; I can’t be good friend no matter how much I try. May be I am over thinking.

But I am loyal & faithful , still can’t understand where is my mistakes , why my friends leave me or don’t love me no matter how much I love them???

Now I gonna free my heart from all sorts of fear , as fear not only capture our heart but also on mind which is the great reason behind our failure life. If we have no fear. Because truthfully, fear adds to the problem!!  See, if we continue down the fearful path, it goes from being uncomfortable to tormenting, and then from tormenting to disease! We are the ones that have the ability to stop that from spiraling down the wrong pathway!

It’s up to us to choose the right pathway. What does the Word say? I have set before you life and death?? Choose life And the side effect to all this fearlessness is Hope! As I am finishing up this article, I am feeling more hopeful! I see so many awesome things ahead. I see a light at the end of the tunnel. Hope is amazing! I hope for you today. Be fearless & live fullest