LOVE IS A SCIENCE , SOME GET IT WITHOUT KNOW IT

Now the lifestyle and the mind-set of people change so much and it's so flexible, it’s really very difficult to get anyone who is perfectly match with your mind-set means I am talking about lock and key kind of relationship or can say "MADE FOR EACH OTHER", even if the mind-set match , there are so many thing which lack behind which don’t compatible like dreams etc.  So what actually put us behind when it’s comes to build any serious relationship, 

Is it love or trust or status or what?

I judge many incidents in my life as well as in others life too and finally got to know compatibility is the main issue behind all of these. So what do you mean by compatibility and what kind of role it plays in our daily life?

So whenever my parents ask me about marriage or love, I always say its compatibility issue after knowing the meaning of compatibility. So what is that actually?

Compatibility is true sense of love in modern world 

Love and fraud are like two side of a coin, it’s a cornerstone of our humanity; only love protects us enough to grow and change, whereas fraud does its opposite. Living in a society that satisfies our emotional and material wants we didn't even unconsciously we throws our mind-set into the society and in that same time we try to find acceptance and meaning through deep human contact.

Love remains something we all long for, at least on the receiving end, but do you think all are so lucky to get that, I guess No! Some or can say in modern world most of us trouble in finding, or recognizing or holding onto. And sometimes, letting go is the only choice in our hand when we feel we are living in a lie for a long time and unnecessarily waste our feelings and emotions for wrong people, don’t you ever face this in your entire life, I know each and every one face the same at some point of their life either it’s comes to love relationship or friendship relationship.

We all want to be loved and live with care, whereas we also aware with this fact that “Love's coming or sad going and it’s vice versa” nothing stays forever in our life but yes! The amount of love and sad part get someone in his/her life that is vary as per the karma of present life and sometimes our past karma also affects our present too.

Sometimes our heart wants to be with someone to share our laughter that can be a best friend as well as a lover, someone who'll not only listen to our doubts and celebrate our triumphs but also celebrate with us like madness. We want to be one half of a couple whose personal characteristics so closely mesh that we'll remain oriented to one another in a hyper stimulating world. Such assurance resides only in compatibility.

Define relationship compatibility?

Relationship compatibility exists and it truly affects our life, first and foremost, when a couple relates with equality and respect. It’s important for couples to have fun together and really enjoy the time they spend together as well as success together, I am a kind of person who want to see other successful as well as myself too and I love to keep everything in balance mode. However, a couple doesn’t have to have every interest in common , some of the qualities should be mismatch for a betterment of their own life and strong bonding infect I feel the dream and personal growth qualities should differ so that each need each other’s help and no inferiority complex feeling.

We often make the mistake of assuming there is only one person or “soul mate” out there for us and we believe that that person will complement us in every way. The problem arise ,while searching this we lost ourselves in the path of best and reach to somewhere else which finally bring misery in our life, sometimes this idea to reject potential partners is who don’t fit the image of the person we think and we should be with. It doesn’t mean they are bad or something like they lack in their life but it’s something which we lack in our life and try to find out in another soul whom we can call as soul mate and that can be anyone else.

Even when you find the ideal choice for you, that person will not share all of your interests or meet all of your needs.  It is also important to have friendships, a broader base of support and companionship with them not necessary all ideal choices can be our soul mate as they have also their own priority, so you can fulfil all aspects of yourself through friendship too.

Issues that mainly arise in any relationship that is TRUST factor, but here I just want to say one thing love your partner and still keep in faith that they’ll never ever leave you entire your life if that person is your true soul mate as I believe in this modern world no one is truly perfect as we all are aspirant of big achiever. Life sometimes gifts the good people with a potential partners you may be compatible with and with whom you could develop your ability to be a loving person.

Is relationship compatibility important?

People are simply not happy when they’re with someone they’re not compatible with as especially when it’s comes to marriage issue, a person can marry many time but a true lover or a good human being can’t marry more than one as they feel their own soul in their life partner or can say one man woman or one woman mankind.  Unfortunately, sometimes we don’t always pick right partner for the right reasons. We might be drawn to someone for unconscious reasons based on adaptations from our childhood. The psychological behind it is , sometimes what we want now and what we want latter or forever is totally different or can say most of the time it differs , that’s why most of the people falls there while choosing these two.

We tend to choose partners who treat us like we were treated in our family, so our adaptations fit with them perfectly as we feel homely , I am talking about me I love to open conversation with those who treat me as their family and handle me with care as I feel protected Or an unconscious level, we are often looking for people who are not ideal for us but they can be ideal for a particular reason for a particular time.

For example,

If you’re quiet and shy , and you pick a partner who is loud and arrogant , you may fail to ever challenge yourself to speak up but some qualities we can’t develop much as we are adaptable those traits from our childhood days and our genetic effects also works here. You may yield to your partner’s decisions and let him or her dominate the relationship, not really voicing your opinion or getting what you want , in this case it’s a failure relation whereas now also near about 60-70% couple like this , who are totally opposite to each other still stay together till death as they need each other , you may be loved but it can’t bring a good pleasure in your entire life because relationship is not for one or two days , it’s for lifetime issue so how can someone compromise here.

When we connect based on unhealthy traits that fit together, the reasons we are drawn to a person eventually become the reason we are repelled by that person. Someone we saw as having “good values” could start to seem “judgmental.” Someone we chose for being “stable” may eventually seem “dull.” Someone we found very “charismatic” may soon strike us as “narcissistic.”

So now a days LOVE becomes judgemental and more scientific than before , specially I am talking about me I am hard core believer of science affects our love or psychology behind love compatibility , that’s why I feel happy to be single as I was wanting to get a compatible personality .

So now try to avoid choosing partners for the wrong reasons or short term pleasure, for a compatible relationship should never be a search for our “missing piece.” When we seek out someone who “completes” us, we might limit ourselves and our personal growth , whereas we are now living in a such world where we all need equality in job and career growth even success too . Instead, we should pick people who challenge us and help us evolve. 

Love operates on many levels. It’s a game we all play from the day we born to the day we leave our last breath, a true combination of biology and behaviour. But it operates best when we use our knowledge and add if to it in our daily life, when we consciously shape our relationships through an attitude of goodwill.

True meaning of compatibility

Compatibility does not hinge on some personal inventory of traits. Compatibility isn't something you have. It's something you make. It's a process, one that you negotiate as you go along. Again and again. It's a disposition, an attitude, a willingness to work.

Beauty is the eyes of beholder and now a days beauty is not looks like a fairy tale and it’s something more than that, compatibility is a kind of sprinkle fairy dust we put on ourselves and then we will suddenly open our eyes and behold, The Perfect Mate—without prying open their own heart, embracing an unwavering willingness to see the other in a positive light or doing the hard work of exploring, knowing and respecting another human being.

Compatibility is the similarities or personality traits that attract people to each other sometimes it also fails and do not hold up over time. You might be attracted to someone because you both love to do certain thing and physical attraction or emotional attraction or simple attraction.

Sensitivity to the issue of compatibility may be in and of itself a sign of trouble.

Sometimes people assume compatibility as a baseline requirement for their family instead of themselves, then want more. "I want him to fit in with my family and do all the things I love to do and he/she should be sexy/beautiful blew blew " so you can have an even more fulfilling relationship if you respect each other's worlds, and learn a little bit from each other.

How does a relationship support what you see as a mission in life?

You must also connect emotionally.

How much do you respond to each other's bids for attention?

Does your partner turn toward you with equal enthusiasm?

You need to ask questions and constantly update your knowledge of one another. And you need the ability to hear your partner's delight and take it in.

(John Gottman, founder-director of the Relationship Research Institute, Seattle)

Understanding What Is Compatibility in a Relationship

When you first meet someone, you get to know the person by talking about his/her life experiences and personality traits and likes and dislikes as well the view towards the love as a friendly manner not as a flirt manner, you start to realize that your boyfriend or girlfriend is either a lot like you or very different from you. As you probably have guessed, you are compatible with the person.

LIFE LESSON

Love is not about look or status or some kind of pleasure, it’s an inner feeling to feel more connected , safe and loved. It’s a feeling that no one can give except that person and that person can be anyone. I am a very open minded girl in all prospects, that’s why I am waiting for that day when there will no religion and any other factors which can force two deep loved people to stay away from each other.

Love is a science and mixture of emotion and feeling.

You might be thinking about me – yes! It doesn’t mean that I never ever found someone who is compatible with me. I found many people like this but most of the time I fail in some factors like not so much connected with each other especially when it comes to emotion. Now a days we are so developed and we always fight for our right and try to become successful we always forget that love also one of the factor which can built us in a beautiful way. That’s why I am looking forward to find someone who is compatible even well WISE ENOUGH TO NEVER LEAVE MY SIDE EVER. As I hate coward and fool people when it comes to LOVE, you should have BIG HEART to love someone. That’s what I think - That’s why I am fearless and careless when it’s comes to LOVE, AS LOVE IS DIFFERENT IN IT'S WAY. IT’S TRULY A SCIENCE BUT FEW UNDERSTAND IT PROPERLY. LUCKY ARE THOSE WHO DON’T EVEN KNOW THE SCIENCE BEHIND LOVE BUT GET DUE TO THEIR BEST FATE or GOD GRESS , EVEN WE KNOW WE FAIL DUE TO POOR FATE , THAT’S WHY I BELIEVE IN MIRACLE !!!

PS- WRITTEN BY ME AFTER RESEARCHING ON HUMAN PSYCHOLOGY BEHIND COMPATIBILITY FACTORS .